Is Love Logical
inspired by an in class discussion on love and logic
Is love logical?
Tell me this, would you logically hand someone your beating, bleeding heart and say “just be careful.” That is what is keeping you alive. Giving them your heart is the equivalent to giving them the reason why you are living.
Love is not logical at all, why in the world would we logically give away everything we grow up learning to protect. Our security, our peace of mind, our hearts, our trust to one single person who could bring us the utmost joy but on the other hand could cause such exquisite pain. Why would be be so vulnerable and so naked as to give ourselves to someone else to such a degree that they could destroy us with just a few words.
As humans we don’t want to be hurt. We don’t go into things with the aspiration of being broken, so why would we put our all on the line? Why would we give away everything so sacred and so personal? Simple. That is love. Because we can’t help it. Because the potential happiness outweighs the risk. Because for that one person you would do anything. Because if it works they could be the everything you always wanted.
We don’t choose who we fall in love with. Sure we could “logically” line up what the ideal man would be for us. Good paying job. Desire to support me. Good with kids. Responsible. Kind. Someone could check all of those boxes predetermined by the middle school girl in us all and still it lacks that honest and true love. The chemistry. The spark. The passion. The desire. Someone could have every qualification of being the one. They could check every box on your “logical” list, but it just is not there. And you can’t force it to be.
You could fall in love with someone you can’t have. You can fall in love with someone you shouldn’t want. We’ve all done it at one point or another. It’s one of the most bittersweet feelings in the world. To feel those glorious butterflies fill your soul but know it’s forbidden.. undesired. How could something so illogical and stupid make you so giddy. Falling in love with something you can’t have is painful but exhilarating all at once. It will leave you with what if’s and uncertainties. It’s so painful to know the way they make you feel but have it be just beyond reach and untouchable but all at once, undeniable.
People always tell stories of how they fell in love with who they were with.
“I was dating a girl for 3 years, known her all my life. But then I met my wife. I couldn’t deny it. I knew she was the right one for me despite all the time I had spent on the past relationship. This was just right.”
“I was writing a missionary, he was 2 months from getting home and I met this guy who everyone found imperfect. I fell completely and undeniably in love with him. He wasn’t perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but he was perfect for me. And I loved him.”
“I was engaged to my ex when out of no where he showed up. He changed everything. How could I deny myself of that happiness? How could I look and him and see all I ever wanted but pass it up over a previous and now irrelevant engagement?”
One trend I’ve seen above all is “it was undeniable.” Everyone deserves an undeniable love. The kind of love anyone and everyone can see, even from the outside looking in. The kind of love no one can say it isn’t there. No one can honestly look you in the eye and tell you no I don’t see it. It takes awhile, it takes patience to wait for it and find it. It may take overcoming but if you find that one person that regardless of timing, situation or history you cannot deny your love for them, don’t walk away from that. No matter how hard it may seem to make it work.
I would definitely claim that love is in no way shape or form logical. It’s far too feeling and emotional. No one can control it, it’s beyond us. We have no other choice than to just experience it. It takes over every logical bone in our body, so we may as well give in to our emotions and feelings and just enjoy the journey.