Is’ …I, a distant sort of niece, have my ‘How Kind Uncle Shiloh Is’ story, and so do many of my friends. Shiloh is successful because Shiloh is kind.
And not even “porn” because porn isn’t the real problem; the mindset that makes porn appealing is the problem. That same mindset that’s a part of our real selves — the version we have with our partners in bed.
…as part of “never doing that again!,” started reading up on all things “bad relationship” and then “codependent” (pro tip: many of us are one and don’t realize it, because much of what is touted as “love and romance” is actually codependency.)