Black is truly beautiful….
I was born in the 60’s and grew up in the 70’s….And for what it’s worth…Things ain’t like they used to be….
Growing up, in my time we were seeing and end to racism-(or, so we thought) as the floodgates of racial / opportunity, equality opened…. Separation, cronyism and segregation was out!! Or, so we thought….
But anyway! Before I get off track here…here’s my question….
Is there a problem with being a black woman today? As it was nearly 60 or 70 years ago?….And to my black sisters — as a black woman do you feel a certain pressure? To look, dress, talk or act a certain way? If so, does it embolden you? Defines you? Or do you feel it isolates you? Diminishes you?
Are you comfortable with your skin?….In your skin? With your Job? Career?Relationship?Your weight? Height? Hair?
Do you feel compelled to want to, or have to wear makeup, extensions, finer clothes? Or are just just as proud, happy and comfortable of being the way you are? And.
Would YOU change something or anything about yourself to please others? Fit in? Or just because YOU want to?
I put some photos together randomly below-(and I’ll tell you who the young lady is at the top in a minute)….But for now, just look at the pics and tell me what comes to mind…Because I am going to voice what come to my mind…..
What do you see? If you are a black woman, do YOU see you in any of these photos? Personality, color, fashion, attitude or look-wise?
How about now? And if your’e not a “black woman” please feel free to comment anyway….And if your’e not a black woman, your’e comments are welcomed all the same… Now, sit back, relax and enjoy the scenery!!!
The images I picked randomly…I wanted to also get a sense as a man-(and black man) how I truly saw these beautiful women, for what they were…Beautiful!!! And I hope the rest of the world sees them that way too…
These ladies were soft, tough, hard, subtle, gentle, fierce — and the embodiment of what I thought and knew what black women were….And for the most part, some still are….
But as of late, I have seen infomercials, commercials, blogs, vlogs, posts and snippets about black women wanting to “bleach their skin” extend their hair, press their hair-(nothing new)…Put in makeup….And it’s all well and good…So long as you do it because you want to….Not because you’ll think that others will accept you…..Your’e beautiful and smarter than that…
Women in the 40’s and 50’s pressed their hair, while women in the late 60’s and mid 70’s darned the “Afro” (still my favorite hairstyle)…But lately, women seem more obsessed with looking white and even a bit ashamed to be black…
But this time, it feels different…Like some (not all) are not happy with the way they are made….Like they have to compete in some “beauty Olympics”…… Only be lighter, whiter, not browner or darker-(black)…
So today, I decided to “compile” some photos of black women-(a few guys too) just to let black women see — that yes! You are beautiful…And yes, YOU are desirable — -by many men of all races….Especially the black man…..
And YOU don’t need extensions, or makeup, or any of those things to look beautiful…BECAUSE you ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!
Embrace it….Let your glow and radiance shine through….And above all, be proud, don’t be afraid to love, or be loved…Because I know I speak for a lot of men when I say — -You are special….And YOU are loved!!!!
All I forgot to mention, that I took women from the 70’s up until now…More than 50 years — -and the black woman has come a long way and has seen a lot of struggles and milestones… From fashion to hair, attitude to flair…
Contrast to comparison….
From the 50’s to the 60's….Many black women had to transition into various roles nearly overnight! In this case, less than a decade between these ladies!
From singers…To business….To the black woman next door, on the subway, train or plane!! Your’e anything but common, or ordinary…..You are extraordinary!!
Whether as our inspiration…….Or.
No one can challenge, nor defeat YOU!!!
Whether in solitude or happy…..you're still women of color…No matter what the situation calls for!!!
Whether a new generation…Or as wisdom passed…..You will always be our future….
Whether in Sisterhood….or Solitude……You stand so tall….And so proud…And so beautiful!!…
Whether shy….Or outlandishly outspoken…..You are our treasures….And should be adored……
From soft to sassy……
From confident….to secure…..
You come in all flavors and shades of brown and black…..And all of them are both beautiful and very much desired…..
You beauty a mystery….Your charm, unparalleled…..
You don’t have to be black to know, love and experience your beauty…Its wanted by all!!!!
No matter where you go…there YOU are….
I hope that many of you ladies — especially black women understand just a little bit more of how important, necessary, fun loving and beautiful YOU truly are….
But I want to hear from you…And if you have a pic that I can post on this article…Let me know…You can email it to:
And as always, I invite your comments, thoughts, opinions and any questions you may have…..