Orange and apple

I’ll tell you one story I’ve read recently about emotional support. It is interesting, don’t close the window ;)

They said you can imagine the situation when you want an apple. But you have no apples. And people around have no apples. But I’m trying to resist my depression about being lonely with my apple desire. So I can try to share my feelings about wanting an apple with my friends. And I do. What the usual friend will do in this case? He has no any apple too. So he can tell you that he has an orange, and the orange is good. It can be good. But I want an apple. After it he can say to me that orange is as good as an apple and it is very useful for my health and maybe even better than an apple. But the fact is I want only an apple and I definitely don’t want an orange.

Then I realise that it maybe hurts my friend, the fact I refuse his help. So I can take the orange just to make him feel good.

So here I am sitting spangled by oranges but not feeling any better.

Emotional support is not trying to help with the actual physical actions but just being with a person when the person needs anybody around. Just trying to understand the situation, being emotionally close in the situation. Feeling close, feeling this person’s problem and maybe telling that in your soul you are with him or with her.

Hugs can be useful too ;) But can be harmful. Just feel the situation.

Originally from https://www.facebook.com/olga.poputi/posts/1133341636726636