Ends Happen!

Almost all people are scared of “ends”, they see them as something negative more similar to a failure or a lost than, indeed, a conclusion, a change, even a win sometimes… What I know about end is that almost all the time End is Good… Everytime something comes to the end something else begins…and generally we are so much focused on what we are leaving to not see what’s coming on…

There are two types of issues that we usually face when we are at the end of something: First, (of course) if we are ready or not to accept it; Second, if we are at the end of a chapter or at the end of the book…and this one is normally what scares the most… Ending something that they could never see or do again makes people even more nervous, because for our human nature we are never sure we want to renounce to someone / something until we’re not forced to…

I know many people who have started a new life from an end: changing country, changing work, finding the person of their life, having incredible experiences around the world… I have just to look at more than half of my friends’ stories to have the proofs of positive ends (in many case they’ve been not only ending a chapter, but closing the book!), whilst many others are still trying to understand how to recover what’s already lost… In general, end is never just “an end”…but more widely a beginning…the beginning of something new, unknown, exciting and adventurous… We can’t avoid ends to happen, so whether we want or not, they will do it… from the end of simple or stupid things like a book, a movie, a tv show that you love, till the end of important ones, such as relationships, friendships and even…lives… I have faced all these kinds of end, everyone has done, and I’ve arrived to a conclusion: end is what let you to change, end is what allow you to grow up, end is what let you to choose how you want to live, for the second, the third or the fourth time, not making the same mistakes, not leaving your dreams back, not hiding the real yourself behind conventions or rules…end is what makes you free to try again, and again, and again…, to be happy where something else or someone else before has failed to… Making the end a good or bad experience it’s up to us…it’s up to our willing to move on, to our determination to play the game again, to our desire to change and grow up…

I don’t know if I am writing this post more for some friends of mine or just for myself…

What I know is that recently I had to face some “ends” (some of theme I have probably postponed for long time…) and finally I got it, I accepted these ends…whether it has been a failure or a win, whether it will be a mistake or the best decision of my life, whether I will ask myself if I’ve done a good or bad choice, I’ve decided to move on, close the book and open a new one, full of blank pages…because just risking we can discover how our life could be better…

What has been part of my past will come with me as what has enabled me to get this point…because everything you leave at your back becomes part of that experience that makes you richer, stronger and sure of what you really want day by day…