Photo I took — this somewhere in Scotland while recovering post break up (not me pictured)

Getting Better at Breaking Up

Laura Archambault
Aug 28, 2017 · 2 min read

I’m no stranger to a broken heart. Oh you know, the feeling of your rib cage crumbling in on it’s self, sobbing so hard you can barely catch a breath, the dull ache over your whole body the next day…

I recently went through this experience and I realized something important (this may seem twisted) but I’m thankful that I’ve had my heart broken more times than I can count on one hand. To be fair, it’s never simple or easy and generally it sucks for both parties. I’m not about to say it’s easier to recover the more times it happens. Hell no.

But I take comfort in knowing the familiar process; cry, severe displeasure in seeing happy couples, stereotypical comments from well meaning friends, repeating what happened 1000 times, talking about time like every mention of the word will some how actually fast forward my life 6 months and maybe I’ll be over this shhhhiitttttt.

I’ve been fortunate enough to learn the stages I go through and what has worked in the past to help me reach a point where I can forget to think about them for months at a time. To be able to forget about someone who broke your heart is a feat in itself. Took me 6 years for one, still working on a couple right now. Because recovery does not happen over night and sometimes it takes a lot of time and you’re not always finished with one before you get another.

For now, I am going to do my best not to cringe at couples and appreciate the fact that in 6 years I will probably forget about these guys too.

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