“Changes that seem small and unimportant at first will compound into remarkable results if you’re willing to stick with them for years.” — James Clear, Atomic Habits
To reach your goals, you need a system. You need to build habits and you have to stick around long enough to let them do their magic. You hear it over and over again because it’s true.
In 2019, one of the most popular books was Atomic Habits, by James Clear. It’s a practical guide to break bad habits and build good ones. …
When I started my journey through Asia, I had two things on my list: spend as much time as possible in Japan and live among Buddhist monks in Myanmar.
Because of the coronavirus pandemic, I let go of the first dream but took a lot out of the second one.
I arrived in Myanmar in February 2020, with a precise plan for all the 28 days I was about to spend exploring the country.
But a quick scroll on Couchsurfing landed me an unforgettable experience that was not part of my plan. …
All my cousins are married or engaged and work a 9 to 5 job. They have houses and cars with their names on them. I have 15 tattoos, the possibility to work from anywhere, and a bad habit of calling people from the airport to tell them I’m going away for a few weeks.
I’m sure you can tell why we don’t get along. We don’t have anything in common. And as teenagers and young adults, we used to fight a lot because everybody had strong opinions about my life choices.
However, in time, we have learned to respect one another. I won’t lie, there’s still unsolicited advice flying around the room when we get together. But instead of getting aggressive when that happens, we approach things differently. …
Sound machines, complete darkness in the room, not touching my phone two hours before going to bed, and earplugs. You name it, I’ve tried it. Nothing worked.
Before learning this technique, I used to sleep less than 5 hours per night. And this not only had me feeling tired, but it also annoyed the heck out of me. That’s because all I did was lay in bed until 3 in the morning, overthinking things. Ok, sometimes I would also stare at the person sleeping peacefully next to me.
It was probably a trace of love there, too. But most of the time it was pure jealousy and a strong desire to kick them out of bed. …
You won’t find a book that will teach you how to write. The Bible of Writing does not exist. However, there are plenty of books out there that will make you a much better writer. Books that will help you improve your craft. And that’s what we’re going to focus on.
What inspired me to write this was a conversation with a good friend of mine who teaches a creative writing course back in Romania. This is what he always tells a new group of students, right after he introduces himself:
“I can’t teach you how to write. That’s all on you. I can, however, show you how to make sense of your ideas. How to shape them, put them in order, and make connections between them. And after we get them all out, I can show you how to come up with new ones.” …
If you print a bunch of quotes and make a mood board out of them, you’ll have a nice, unique decoration. But if you go beyond the words, understand the concepts, and apply them, you might see some big changes in your everyday life.
It worked for Eckhart Tolle so why wouldn’t it work for you too, if you put in the same amount of effort?
According to his books, Tolle turned his life around when he was 29, after fighting depression and suicidal thoughts for years. Today, he’s one of the most famous spiritual teachers out there.
His core ideas go hand in hand with what I’ve learned from practicing Vipassana meditation for the past 1.5 years. …
I’m on my way to the kitchen when I stumble on a woman I’ve never seen before. She’s washing some baby clothes on the terrace, just outside my room. For the past four months, I’ve been staying in a Vietnamese homestay and I’m used to seeing random people wandering around the house.
So I smile and say hello, then head downstairs. I assume she’s a neighbor or a family friend. As it turns out, she’s neither.
I pour some hot water over my instant coffee and make my way back to the second floor, where my room is. As I’m walking slowly, trying not to step on one of the eleven cats that live under the same roof, I see my host entering the house. …
I was on a flight to London when I noticed that the airplane stopped moving and quickly realized we were about to crash.
The only reason why I did not go running after a flight attendant was because I couldn’t. My mouth was clenched and my legs felt numb.
That’s when I had my first panic attack.
Back then, I had no idea what just happened. I was going through a lot of changes in my personal life so I just assumed it was all because of high levels of stress and sleep deprivation.
Six months later, I was knocking on the doors of 3 cardiologists, telling them I’m gonna have a heart attack soon. Many tests and about 1,500 euros later, they all came to the same conclusion: I was a perfectly healthy 25-year-old woman. …
You take a deep breath, crack your knuckles, and start working on a project with a big, confident smile on your face. Ten minutes later, you feel like throwing everything out the window. The muse did not show up. Again.
But creativity doesn’t work like that. And as long as you treat it as a divine source of inspiration, you’ll hardly finish any projects.
How about some good news, though? You can learn to be more creative. You don’t have to wait around for your muse to come. What you have to do is create momentum — a phrase I’ve read 100 times in the past few days and swore I’ll never use. …
“Oh, great, another European who wants to teach English in Vietnam”, read one of the 127 comments I received to a question I posted in a Facebook group.
But my question had nothing to do with teaching jobs.
I asked what would be the best areas to live in Ho Chi Minh City. I’ve done my research and already narrowed it down to 2–3 districts but I could use some insight information. 8 million people are living in the city, almost half of the population of Romania, my home country. …