The Girl Sex Ed You Need To Know …..
Sexuality is one of the most controversial topics of all times. Women been less understood than men. It’s a man’s world they say. Women don’t talk about these things or even better you’ll learn all of it in marriage.
It’s hypocrisy at its finest,ignoring the big elephant in the room, expecting your kids to just grow into it or find their way. Teaching boys all there is to know about sex, teaching them how to give and receive pleasure but only teaching girls only how to give but not receive the said pleasure.
You are told that men have needs that have to be met, satisfying your husband should be your greatest joy. You are taught how to cater for his needs and feelings, yours are sacrificed on the altar of greater good. No one tells you that your body has needs and feelings. No one tells you what to expect other than your pleasure resides in the arms of a man.
Girls grow with no particular understanding of their bodies, it’s all hush and shush, talked about behind closed doors , in dark rooms like horror stories. The general idea being that keeping you in the dark will scare you away, unfortunately curiosity killed the cat.
You know you have a monthly cycle coming up but with no understanding of what causes it, how to cope with the pains, when it’s safe or not to practice sex in the event you want to. Reason why in our society today, more than 50% of women at sexual maturity have little to no knowledge pertaining to their monthly cycles and sexual pleasure. Orgasms are reserved to a lucky few.
Your virginity is lost to peer pressure, curiosity and teenage rebellion. It was so hushed and shushed you decided to go Columbus on yourself, which usually ends poorly. The inexperience and rush kills the pleasure, sometimes. You grow older navigating in a dark cloud, unanswered questions, unspoken truths hanging in the air like thick fog. Too scared to ask what was forbidden to you in the first place, even when you do , you are replied with fables and folklore.
You are expected to know how to receive pleasure from a body you don’t fully understand. Some guys are nice enough to ask what you like, a question you have no answer to, you know what you want to achieve but have no idea how your body will take you there. Others don’t, they just apply the standard all or nothing folklore rules or the few locker room tips gotten from their buddies. It’s an experiment. If it does work count yourself lucky , if it doesn’t well, you might have more luck next time. Hopefully your partner loves you enough to go Columbus with you and not leave you hanging high and dry.
It’s a repetitive cycle that must be broken. Persisting in this vicious cycle causes more harm than good. Sex education has to be taken seriously. Women should be taught that their pleasure is as important as that of their lover, it’s their body , they need to grasp the power that resides in it and how to preserve that power.
Knowledge is power, in all areas. Thanks to the internet we have a world of knowledge at our fingers tips, teach your kids what you want them to know or wait on the internet and peer pressure to do it for you. The latter being worse than the former.
