Doing the same thing expecting different results is killing your dreams by slow death
Me: Dying to self is the key to fully living.
Friend: What does dying to self mean? I don’t understand. And how is it the key to fully living?
Me: All of us get in the way of our own success from time to time. Mostly because we keep doing what we have always done even if it’s not working. But until we change the way we think we will continue to make the same mistakes thinking it will be different “this” time.
Rewire your thoughts
It’s like being desperately close to accomplishing a goal but unable to achieve it no matter how hard you try.
A friend asked me once to be patient while they rewired the way they thought. Sounded like they were really saying, “According to my track record, please note I will be screwing up until change comes.” A mentor said it this way, “Dying to your old self is like burying bad habits that prevent us from fully experiencing life without the fear of failure, grief, and regret.”
Renew your mind
I didn’t realize how far into the Christian community saying “dying to self” reached until I began researching for this article. It’s obviously way bigger than I thought. But whether a believer or not, without maturity factored in change is always easier said than done.
A guy named Paul said it like this,
“When I was a child, I spoke and thought. and reasoned like a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13:11
Change your life.
If you’re into one God, many, or no gods at all. When things aren’t working out in your current situation, open your eyes –something needs to radically change. Which might just mean wiping the slate clean and starting over new.
Changing your choices, changing your relationships, changing your behaviors and beliefs will probably stop you from banging your head. The option is watching your dreams and desires shrink down to nothing.
Seriously though, as dark as it may sound, you might have to kill off a few of your old behaviors in order to make meaningful change. Whether you like it or not dying to self, your old self, is how to live a new life filled with good choices and great experiences. Dying to self is the key to fully living the life of your dreams. Change. Just do it!
