Top of the Charts

I just couldn’t help it. As you might remember from prior blogs posted on my personal blog site, ourlifeinbusiness.com, I drive my 13-year-old daughter to school every morning. Over the past several weeks, we have been listening to the top twenty on the various channels that an 8th Grader would listen to on the way to school.

Frankly, I like a lot of the music. It is heartfelt, clever, youthful, creative, and musically accomplished.

At the same time, I must say that I also listen to some songs that, at its core, either make no sense to me whatsoever or, in the alternative, are reflective of exactly what they seem to be suggesting.

There are three songs I wanted to publish here that are on the top of the charts when it comes to whatever channels Isabella has me listening to.

It seems to me that there is a fundamental component to each of these three national best-selling songs that are consistent with each other and which got my attention. They are all reciprocal in that they have two communications — one from the male to the female and the other from the female to the male; they are all playing out pain as to the status of the relationships the two convey; and they are all dysfunctional in the relationship they seem to be describing.

Let me unpack that a little. They all reflect the same set of circumstances:

· They are “tween” to teenager music

· They are all about relationships

· They are all about dysfunction in those relationships

· They are all about pain and suffering in those dysfunctional relationships

· And, they are all dual communications, with both parties co-dependently committed to pain and suffering in those dysfunctional relationships.

Take a look at the following three songs, all three of which have been published in descending order of popularity in the Pop Charts. Read through them — without the music — and see if you don’t agree. The words pretty much tell me the story. I’ll come back shortly after you have read them.

Make Me (Cry)

I never needed you like I do right now

I never needed you like I do right now

I never hated you like I do right now

’Cause all you ever do is make me

Gave you up ‘bout twenty one times

Felt those lips tell me twenty one lies

You’ll be the death of me

Sage advice

Love, lovin’ you could make Jesus cry

When I hear you sayin’, “Darlin’, your kiss is like an antidote”

I’m fightin’ like I’m Ali

But you got me on the ropes

I never needed you like I do right now

I never needed you like I do right now

I never hated you like I do right now

’Cause all you ever do is make me

Couldn’t hear the thunder, but I heard your heart race

Couldn’t see the rain, we’re too busy makin’ hurricanes

Love ain’t easy when it ain’t my way

But it gets hard, when you ain’t here makin’ me crazy

Baby, say the word, darlin’

You know just how to hold the sucker down

So I’ll see you in the morning

I can’t watch you walk out

I never needed you like I do right now

I never needed you like I do right now

I never hated you like I do right now

’Cause all you ever do is make me

Cry, cry, cry

Hear the thunder, see the rain

Ooh, ooh, yeah, ooh

Keep on makin’ me cry

Yeah, hey, hey yeah, ooh

Keep makin’ me scream and holler

Keep on makin’ me cry

You don’t know what you do to me

Hey, hey, yeah

I never needed you like I do right now

I never needed you like I do right now

I never hated you like I do right now

’Cause all you ever do is make me

Issues

I’m jealous, I’m overzealous

When I’m down, I get real down

When I’m high, I don’t come down

But I get angry, baby, believe me

I could love you just like that

And I can leave you just as fast

But you don’t judge me

’Cause if you did, baby, I would judge you too

No, you don’t judge me

’Cause if you did, baby, I would judge you too

’Cause I got issues, but you got ’em too

So give ’em all to me and I’ll give mine to you

Bask in the glory of all our problems

’Cause we got the kind of love it takes to solve ‘em

Yeah, I got issues

And one of them is how bad I need you

You do shit on purpose

You get mad and you break things

Feel bad, try to fix things

But you’re perfect, poorly wired circuit

And got hands like an ocean

Push you out, pull you back in

’Cause you don’t judge me

’Cause if you did, baby, I would judge you too

No, you don’t judge me

’Cause you see it from the same point of view

’Cause I got issues, but you got ’em too

So give ’em all to me and I’ll give mine to you

Bask in the glory of all our problems

’Cause we got the kind of love it takes to solve ‘em

Yeah, I got issues

And one of them is how bad I need you

I got issues, you got ’em too

And one of them is how bad I need you

I got issues, you got ’em too

’Cause I got issues, but you got ’em too

So give ’em all to me and I’ll give mine to you

Bask in the glory of all our problems

’Cause we got the kind of love it takes to solve ‘em

Yeah, I got issues (I got)

And one of them is how bad I need you (You got ’em too)

Yeah, I got issues (I got issues)

And one of them is how bad I need you (You got ’em too)

Yeah, I got issues (I got)

And one of them is how bad I need you

Too Good

Oh yeah, yeah, yeah

Oh yeah, yeah, yeah

Yeah

Look…I don’t know how to talk to you

I don’t know how to ask you if you’re okay

My friends always feel the need to tell me things

Seems like they’re just happier than us these days

Yeah, these days I don’t know how to talk to you

I don’t know how to be there when you need me

It feels like the only time you see me

Is when you turn your head to the side and look at me differently

Yeah, and last night I think I lost my patience

Last night, I got high as your expectations

Last night, I came to a realization

And I hope you can take it

I hope you can take it

I’m too good to you

I’m way too good to you

You take my love for granted

I just don’t understand it

No, I’m too good to you

I’m way too good to you

You take my love for granted

I just don’t understand it

I don’t know how to talk to you

I just know I found myself getting lost with you

Lately you just make me work too hard for you

Got me on flights overseas, and I still can’t get across to you

And last night I think I lost my patience

Last night, I got high as your expectations

Last night, I came to a realization

And I hope you can take it

I hope you can take it

I’m too good to you

I’m way too good to you

You take my love for granted

I just don’t understand it

No, I’m too good to you

I’m way too good to you

You take my love for granted

I just don’t understand it

Years go by too fast

I can’t keep track

How long did we last?

I feel bad for asking

It can’t end like this

We gotta take time with this

Cock up yuh bumper, sit down pon it

Let me see if this is something I can fix

You got somebody other than me

Don’t play the victim when you’re with me

Free time is costing me more than it seems

Sacrificing things

And I wanna tell you my intentions

I wanna do the things that I mention

I wanna benefit from the friendship

I wanna get the late night message from you, from you

I put my hands around you

Gotta get a handle on you

Gotta get a handle on the fact that…

I’m too good to you

I’m way too good to you

You take my love for granted

I just don’t understand it

No, I’m too good to you

I’m way too good to you

You take my love for granted

I just don’t understand it

Gyal a you mi waan

Pay fi yuh visa meck yo fly out regular

Baby, cock up yuh bumper, sit down pon it

Gyal yo pum pum good and yuh fit

Mi wi give you everything weh deh in my wallet

And in my pocket

Cock up yuh bumper, sit down pon it

Gyal yo pum pum good and yuh fit

Mi wi give you everything weh deh in my wallet

And in my pocket

Need I say more?

At the end of the day, I wonder whether these songs which convey a dysfunctional co-dependency are simply a reflection of the age, or the time, or the artist, or our society.

Regardless, what is happening though, is that they are being accepted, published, embraced, and riding high on the charts — whatever that might mean.

Larry Pino (Laurence J. Pino)

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Business & Investment attorney. Founder of a private equity firm. Focused on starting, developing and growing business enterprises. https://www.larrypino.com/

Larry Pino (Laurence J. Pino)

Written by

Business & Investment attorney. Founder of a private equity firm. Focused on starting, developing and growing business enterprises. https://www.larrypino.com/

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