Curating your inner Circle
Jim Rohn said, “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” So, latepreneur, Paula Cooper asked Hope Paterson (aka Latepreneur Whispherer) what tips, advice, strategies would you give other #latepreneurs who are struggling with the top 5 inner circle question? This is her answer…
Cooper — your ‘swinging for the fences bravery in Latepreneurship’ is a perfect opportunity to prioritize picking your inner circle consciously. I’m not talking about a popularity contest or social climbing, but rather check in with yourself when you spend time with people. Consciously marinate on how you want your life to look like and the kinds of people to make that happen.
I call it the inner circle ‘Sniff Test’.
- Hone into your gut. Trust those sensations when you feel something off with someone, or leave an interaction with a person who has managed to squeeze hope out of your vision. Follow your nose when a new connection (albeit brief) feels like a winner. There’s no reason why you can’t meet someone later in life that gives you the space and encouragement to be the best you.
- Do they push you? Is there an underlying acceptance, healthy dose of honesty, supportive and continuous cheerleading…even when the outcomes seems unsure. Are they leading their life in a way you find inspiring, no matter how small this may be.
- The familiar isn’t always better. Sometimes family and old friends move in and out of the light. I remind Latepreneurs that often long-time relationships can stop being productive, or don’t allow you to push out old boundaries or unhelpful patterns. It doesn’t mean these relationships have to end altogether, but there is no reason to spend a lot of time with people who don’t inspire, support and invigorate you.
- What flavours do you want to push out into the world? What character traits do you want to encourage in yourself. Ponder these, write them down, manifest them and guess what…people who embody these characteristics will start popping up in your life. Try it.
- Variety is the spice of life. Your inner circle doesn’t have to look like cookie cutter versions. You need different people to fulfil different needs.
As for the crazy train you speak of….that’s the good stuff. The source of imagination, personality and character. It speaks volumes about who you are deep down. There is NO reason to keep that bottled inside. Let it rock and bring the right people alongside. They’ll love you for it.