The Struggles of a Sorority President
“I’ve just had the worst week ever,” sighed Megan Duffy as we were driving away for the weekend, “I really need a break.”
Very few can take on the role of being a sorority president; it takes someone with unyielding patience, generosity and grace. Megan Duffy is that person.
As a sorority president, Megan pretty much oversees everything. She is the conduit between the chapter, university, advisors and the house’s national fraternity. It’s a tough gig and Megan has to not only manage so many people, but try to make time for herself and close friends as well.
Anyone who encounters Megan knows what an absolute pleasure she is to be around. She is funny, smart and attractive and she has a way of making you feel important when she speaks to you. She is constantly surrounded by people, and yet so few really know her well enough to know her struggles.
As someone who prides themselves on getting anyone to like them, Megan took a huge risk by putting herself in a position where she often has to put her foot down and occasionally get friends in trouble — as all leaders often face. Even harder, Megan is a devout Christian and is extremely open about her faith and is willing to talk to anyone about it; but not very many of her sisters are interested in that conversation.
“I want to be able to have my door open all the time and be able to listen and console people, but I also want to be able to keep Kappa in line and not do anything that gets us in trouble with nationals.”
As we drove on and stresses of Pullman slowly faded into the review mirror, Megan shared the strains of trying to be friends with everyone while also having to be in charge — two things that do not always mix together well.
Kappa Kappa Gamma is the only sorority on campus that cannot charge its members for not attending events. As a result, all of the seniors in the house have mentally (and physically) checked out of participating.
“It’s just so frustrating when we have a sisterhood and not a single senior shows up — not one. And yet they still come to me and complain about things they don’t like or they want done differently. It really hurts my feelings.”
Instead of brooding on things she cannot change and people she cannot reach out to, Megan focuses on the positives of her position. Now her main objective is to pour into the junior class and focus on the people she hopes she can make an impact on.
When we arrived in Wenatchee to spend the weekend with Megan’s grandparents, she seemed in lighter spirits. Being able to relax and get away for a bit, without having to worry about anyone but herself for a little bit is a luxury Megan often doesn’t get
On Easter, she received a phone call and quickly left to talk in another room, speaking in low, stern tones. When she came out of the room crying, we assumed she had just gotten some bad news from the sorority and was feeling overwhelmed.
“My standards chair just called me and told me she wanted to accept Jesus today,” Megan said through tears.
Her grandmother chimed in, “You were put in your position for a reason, people see you and you have an impact on them.”
Moments like these make Megan’s job all worth it. Moments like these remind her that she is actually valued and needed in the house. Although it may not always be apparent in day to day life, it’s obvious that Megan is loved and appreciated by her sisters.