Rob MacKay
Sep 4, 2018 · 2 min read

And I thought I knew Jamie! Over 26 years Jamie has told me a number of these stories but there were things you shared Brandon that were a surprise to me. Thank you for taking the time to write this. Your insight is important to me and will impact how I remember your father. “The hurt wrought by his upbringing could have cycled through another generation but was transformed instead into compassion and love.” We spoke about this so many times after you and your brother were born. When your mom was pregnant with you your dad called me in a panic late at night and he came over to talk with me and my girlfriend at the time. The thought of having children was overwhelming to him. He was scared that he was going to be a shitty father and just didn’t know what to do. I actually think he knew what to do but there was part of him that assumed his dodgy past was going to repeat itself and that freaked him out. What he actually did was he went home and bit the bullet and became a dad. By all accounts a pretty damn good one! I know that he was proud of you and Connor and Shelley and he was on your side. Jamie and I smoked a couple of cigars on his boat a few weeks ago and talked and talked and talked. And goofed around like we were in high school or something. I miss my friend but the legend will live on my mind and in the stories I tell to my wife and to my friends.

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