The Secret Life of Good Girl Addiction and Recovery
Being a good girl is an addiction. It’s so common and easily mistaken as normal behavior. When it’s far from normal… it’s as destructive as drug or alcohol addiction.
Living in good girl syndrome makes women (and men) emotionally and mentally hooked to the high of people pleasing and the unending chase of perfection.
It is a constant cycle of self-sabotage that leaves women feeling mentally and emotionally depleted. It crushes their self esteem.
However, they don’t stop. They don’t know how to because it’s a behavior that gives them a reward.
As women we are rewarded at a very young age on our ability to please others.
As we grow older we learn we have to please people around us because at times our very safety depends on it. A good example is when you are haggled on the street by men. Be very nice and quiet and maybe they will leave you alone.
Besides social conditioning, if you are suffering from good girl syndrome and not sure where it began… it starts at home.
In family relationships and friend circles it has been reinforced that the nicer we are the more people like us. We are taught there is no time or space for real emotions because that may be “harmful” to others.
