Why Your ‘Good Girl’ Attitude Is Making You MISERABLE
I’ve worked with many women over the years and regardless of how attractive, successful or happy they appeared on the outside, most suffered from what I call “good girl syndrome.”
I know the pop-culture word these days is all about the BOSS LADY, but I can’t tell you how many boss ladies I’ve encountered who are bossy at the workplace and really successful, but in their relationships they suffer from people-pleasing and self-sabotage. No matter how liberated women become, it’s still socially ingrained in them to play the good girl role and do the “right” thing.
How is constant quest for perfection in their careers, relationships and health is ruining women’s lives?
There are two types of ways that women approach people-pleasing. There’s the “say yes to everything” and feel completely overwhelmed on the inside, but act pleasant on the outside people-pleaser. Then there is the avoidance people-pleaser. The latter avoids true social interaction or closeness in their relationships, because they’re worried about saying or doing the wrong thing. This leads to isolation and loneliness. The ”say yes and pretend it’s okay” people-pleaser becomes angry and will often lash out at the wrong person or circumstance. Regardless of the type, these patterns have disastrous affects on relationships and block a feeling…
