I’ve had countless conversations with friends and family about patience. It’s that skill we all wish would come more naturally to us so we wouldn’t feel so annoyed and agitated when we have to endure tedious situations. Oftentimes, those situations involve waiting, and all we want to do is skip to the end. Whether it’s waiting in line or waiting for our dreams to come to fruition, we wish we didn’t feel that yearning to go faster.
Well, there’s a theory that suggests we can.
My aunt and uncle were out of town for the week so I accepted my…
“You’re in the cinema, thirty minutes into a film you don’t like. There’s over an hour left to go. Do you stay or do you leave?”
“Hands up if you’d stay.”
Around 80% of the class raised their hand.
“Hands up to leave.”
The remaining 20% raised their hand.
“Why would you stay?”
A reluctant volunteer piped up to respond; “I’ve already paid for the ticket and invested time to get here. Plus, I have no other plans.”
“Why would you leave?”
“I could make better use of my time,” another student answered.
Think as far back as you can, to your first childhood memory. What would that child have grown up to be if they never experienced fear, shame, or self-doubt? Would you still be you, or do you sometimes wonder what happened to that kid?
I’ve been asking myself these questions lately. Three canceled flights have meant I’ve spent over two months at my parents’ house. One evening last week, I helped my Mum organize the photo albums in chronological order. It was that or yet another 3-hour episode of Spanish Masterchef. I didn’t have the patience for the latter so…
It turns out that all the things that you’re avoiding; all the things that make you feel like you’re being unproductive, could actually improve your focus.
The reason you haven’t realized before is that struggling to focus is like running in a hamster wheel. It’s a self-perpetuating cycle: the more you struggle, the harder you try to focus; the harder you try to focus, the more you struggle.
Think about it. You’re sitting in front of your work, trying to make sense of things, but your mind keeps wandering. …
I officially have something in common with Michael B. Jordan. I’m loving living with my parents.
I flew to the UK to stay with my parents for Christmas, and a three-part-series of canceled flights has meant that I’m still here, more than a month later.
Despite the day-dragging boredom I’m experiencing now that the UK’s national lockdown has lasted for over a month, things are good. I’ve lived alone, or in shared flats with strangers for years. So, coming back home to bask in my parent’s company is something that I treasure these days.
Sadly, not everyone has…
I was sixteen years old, sleeping on a mattress on the floor next to my grandma’s bed. Yaya, we called her.
We were spending the summer in the North of Spain. She had a house in the mountains. Upstairs, there were four rooms — one for each of her children (my aunts and uncles) and their families. Each room had a mezzanine where the parents slept.
My siblings slept in the room; my parents in the mezzanine. I, however, did not. I couldn’t stand my Dad at this age. We couldn’t communicate. I just wanted to stay away. …
All of those decisions you have to make — the ones that keep you up at night and prevent you from being present — they’re not worth the worry. According to the laws of physics, you don’t actually have any free will. Apparently, you can’t control what you do — at least not to the extent you think you can.
Of course, you still need to make decisions. But your struggle to come to a decision is futile — nothing but a waste of time. And no one likes to waste their time. If you wait too long to make…
Like most people, you probably have a handful of ‘idols’ that you look up to. People who you admire and aspire to be like. You read their writing, you watch their interviews, you listen to their podcasts, you follow them on social media; you don’t want to miss out on what they have to say and following their work is a way to learn from their journey.
In a way it’s great to follow what your idols are up to. You can learn about how they got to where they are today, and you can emulate their journey — heck…
This is the first time I’ve considered New Year’s resolutions. Usually, I do my best to uphold Benjamin Franklin’s advice:
“Never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today.” — Benjamin Franklin
If I don’t like something, I prefer to change it ‘now’. I never liked waiting until the New Year to start making progress. But I feel differently this year.
You see, I’m a planner. I like to set myself milestones, both short-term and long-term goals; ‘things I want to achieve this year’, or ‘within the next five years’, or ‘things I want to do in my lifetime’…
The year is finally rounding off. Many people have had a tough time; most at least a discomforting one. Your plans may have been canceled or postponed, and you may not have achieved everything that you hoped you would. In turn, the thought of starting a new year that comes with a whole new set of challenges, milestones, and goals, might seem daunting.
If you’re anything like me, the unexpected events of 2020 might have knocked your confidence slightly, and maybe you don’t quite feel like your best self. Yes, we’re turning over a new leaf, but you might not…