I have never been mad about spending money on a wedding. I think it’s a combination of several factors (a decent salary and savings are probably the most important and I recognize that is a privilege). I have a small number of friends close enough to be invited to their weddings (I’ve never gone to more than one wedding a year) and I’m super excited for them and want to throw money at a really nice gift they’ll like and I’m genuinely excited to attend the events they’ve planned. I’m also honest with myself about how much I’m willing to spend. If I would resent traveling for the wedding or spending money to attend a bachelorette party, I just don’t go. I’ve always felt like I’ve received more than enough enjoyment/satisfaction out of the money I’ve spent on weddings.