Wow! This couldn’t have hit the nail on my head any better. I wish I could go “no contact,” but we share children, so that’s not an option. In almost every communication (via looong texts, usually), he finds a way to insert non-truths and outrageous accusations that make it hard not to start defending myself. I try to take the “high road” by not taking the bait and responding to only the parts that concern co-parenting. Would love to read “The Gaslight Effect,” but unfortunately, it’s crazy-expensive on Amazon (perhaps out of print?). Any other books/reading you would recommend? Thank you, from the bottom of my heart — and my bottomed-out ego — for writing and sharing this.