The reason for unhappiness — A Millenial’s point of view

I’m really not one to complain. It’s a waste of my energy and your time. Unfortunately, there is a lot of complain about, especially when you are a Millennial.

But this is not one of those articles. There are more than enough articles detailing how Millennials think we were shortchanged in life, more than enough studies about how people under 30, especially women, are burning out faster than before. We have more debt, less job satisfaction, and an ungodly high rate of unhappy relationships. In fact, an unprecedented amount of millennials will remain unmarried through age 40. There are videos and infographics and stories upon stories explaining why my generation is not satisfied with life.

I really hate to admit it, but I’m one of the many. I’ve always been a thankful person. I try to find the best in every situation. I avoided debt by going to a trade school and am a privileged, white middle class American. I went into my industry of choice at 18 and by 26, I left my agency job to help start up a web agency in downtown Austin.

Then, like many my age, I reflected on my life. Is this really what I want, to commute in to work, sit behind a computer all day, come home and work on side businesses all night? I got an unfortunate quick answer of, “No.”

The problem with Millennials, besides our impatience to get to the top of our career in five years or less, is that we are ambitious. I know it sounds like a cheesy answer to a bad job interview, but we care too much. We are not satisfied with coasting through the American dream. We want to pursue something that makes us feel challenged, creative, and fulfilled.

Previous generations worked hard for stability. They lived in times very different from ours and dreamed of a comfortable job, beautiful family, and a quiet home. It is not a bad desire to have.

We, however, want more. But we look for it in the wrong places.

Our role models were nobodies like us who created a napkin sketch in college and are now billionaires. We want quick success, because we’re special enough to deserve it. We want to feel relevant, looking for it in the latest gadget. We want to feel loved, obsessing over likes and number of fans. We want fame, we want fortune, and we want glamour.

But we know, deep down, none of those things will satisfy. And that’s one reason why we are so unhappy.

We are taught we are special throughout of young life, then are hit with the bitter reality: Perhaps I’m not so special after all.

I’m here to make the case that we are special. Not the “everyone deserves a trophy,” special, but that every person, regardless of age, sex, race, or income, brings a unique purpose to this world. I think that everyone has a unique solution that only they can discover.

And the thing about Millennials is that we aren’t satisfied until we’ve tapped into that.

We are adventurous. We will spend countless hours studying and growing whatever feeds into our ambitions. We are problem solvers in a world with too many problems. We are unhappy because we are trying to find happiness in the wrong things: Money, power, fame, and things.

We are not here to consume.
We are here to connect. 
We are here to create.

Our ambition is a powerful force that propels us into action. We, individually and as a whole, have the power to shift culture, and I think we know it.

It might not be instant like we are used to in our fast world. We might not reach our potential until we are 40, 50, 60, or 100 years old. But we do all bring a unique perspective and we have the drive to find the answer to what would fulfill us. So my question to you is, what genuinely excites you? What makes you feel fulfilled and like you’ve gotten a tiny bit closer to your purpose? What solutions are you going to bring?