The Missing Element of Success

The backstory

Six weeks ago I hit a brick wall in my mind.

I had undergone some serious mental shifts since moving to Sydney and I needed to make some adjustments to my life and my business.

What did I do? I put the brakes on my business and just chilled out. I took some time out to clear my little brain.

I’m almost at the tail end of this unwinding process. I’ve learnt a phenomenal amount about myself and the way in which I want to live my life and build businesses.

In order to take a leap forward, I needed to slow down and have a very careful think about the following:

  • Who am I?
  • What is my unique story?
  • What are my values?
  • What am I passionate about?
  • What pisses me off? i.e What do I want to change about the world?
  • Where does my genius lie?
  • How does all of this translate to my businesses?

The missing element of success

I’ve been powering through business and self-help books looking for clues. I’ve had coffees with inspiring peers. I’ve visited my psychologist, seen energy workers and have worked closely with my holistic business coach.

I’m slowly starting to put the very important pieces of the puzzle together.

I have realised that university, business books and most people are forgetting one fundamental element of success — you will never reach your own definition of success unless you are being your authentic self. i.e living life on your own unique terms.

The power of authenticity

I’m not here to teach or convince you. I share my own journey in the hopes that it lights a fire within you and reminds you that you not alone. I want you to:

  • Speak up for what is important to you. I am listening.
  • Make your own unique art. I am watching in awe.
  • Feel the fear and push through it. I am waiting on the other side for you.
  • Show me your authentic self. I will still like you.
  • Be brave. I will applaud you.

The tragedy of small expectations

It sounds simple but I’m meeting too many corporate climbers and entrepreneurs that haven’t taken the time to know themselves.

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ― C. Jung

Instead of getting to know thyself, we’re all kinda wondering what the hell we’re doing and where we’re going.

I see people waiting out for Friday night and hoping that climbing the corporate ladder and filling their bank accounts will offset some of the confusion and dissatisfaction. I see people that think that the key to entrepreneurial success is stress and sleepless nights.

I’m going to suggest that we’ve been doing it all wrong. I’m going to suggest that life can be infinitely better if we live our most authentic life in alignment with our personal values, beliefs and dreams.

My journey of self-discovery

The journey of unleashing your authentic self requires you to find a method that works and speaks to you. Consider the journey of self-discovery an MBA for a successful life.

It all comes back to self-love

The first step in living authentically is accepting who you are and loving yourself unconditionally. Sounds easy, but it’s freakin’ hard. It’s fundamental that you begin to shift the way you speak to yourself. Find your method.

What is your ultimate vision for your life?

Every one of us will have a different definition of success. For example, I want to be financially wealthy but I also want to be free and happy. Sounds simple but most of us never achieve all three of these elements. We’re falling short because we’re not being authentic.

What is the vision for you ideal life? What does it feel, look and sound like? Put it on a mood board or write it down. Consider, draft, revise, repeat.


Meditation and looking inwards seriously works. Try creative writing and brain storming also. Find a way to cut out the noise and listen to the whispers of your soul. Don’t laugh, the answers really do lie inside of you.

Ask for help

Figuring out who you are is surprisingly hard. I’ve been investing in professional help so that I don’t have waste the next 20 years of my life figuring it out. It is money well spent. I combine a number of different methods. Email me and I’ll tell you all about it.

Start the slow journey of chipping away at your layers and peaking below the surface. You might be pleasantly surprised by the beautiful human hiding beneath the surface.

You are not for everyone

I feel so free and liberated when I’m being unapologetically “me”. It’s the best feeling in the world. Do I care what people think of me? Not really.

I read a great sentence in a book, Light is the New Black, recently that brought it home for me, “You are not for everyone.” So simple, yet so brilliant.

Your business is to just keep living your authentic self on your own terms. The results, which will reveal themselves in no time, will speak for themselves.

Your vibe attracts your tribe

Sometimes I wonder how in the world I have managed to surround myself with such beautiful, intelligent and “alive” people. I then realise that these people turned up in my life when I began showing the world my most authentic self.

Write your personal manifesto

Yesterday I spent hours drafting my personal manifesto. It is raw, kooky, open and brilliantly “me”. It’s a culmination of the work I have been doing with my coach; an intersection of my values, beliefs and causes.

Use your personal manifesto to guide you on your unique journey every single day.

Now get out there and be authentic.

L x