“If I got a new girl, and she was absolutely stunning — I’m talking gorgeous and smart and successful — would you be shocked, or wonder how I got her?”

Here is a quintessential objectification of women and you do not address that fundamental issue. What other people think is only relevant if they have useful, specific concerns for you or for her. If you do find the “perfect” mate, s/he won’t look anything like this “new” girl/boy and the onlookers will be just as useless and for the same reasons.