Foundation Principles for Difficult Change
I’ve seen my share of jobs, friendships, and relationships. That also translates that in these jobs, friendships, and relationships that I have had to move on. It’s been a part of the journey or path, depending on how you look at it.
I have had the job that I was passionate about and excited to go to work every day, and my boss and colleagues love me — and I, them. Then, all of a sudden (it can seem suddenly), one day there’s a shift. The boss isn’t very nice anymore and seems to deal with me antagonistically. I might assess that they are having struggles personally and/or professionally. Or, I take the completely insecure road, asking myself what I may have done (at least to rectify, apologize, correct, or all of these). Try as I might to receive clarification, to no avail. This happens with friendships and relationships as well.
You now exist in an environment where their heart has hardened and the job has become less than tolerable, toxic even. You may have even been the instigator to walk away from a job, friendship, or relationship at one time or another. In these instances, we have found that we are not living “in peace.”
Several things come to mind when being ejected from a job or relationship:
- The job or relationship is keeping you from growing and pursuing your true purpose and/or the next step in your journey.
- It’s time to release this so you can be open to receive the opportunity that is destined for you.
You don’t need to be mad or vindictive. It’s time to move on.
Which brings us to the two most important components in executing the five objectives to embracing change in career and relationships — Love and Faith.
Love is not an emotion, it is a choice
The dictionary defines love in its simplicity and not in its true complexity.
“Love is an emotion, sentiment, or feeling of pleasurable attraction toward or delight in something — a person or a thing — which induces a desire for the presence, possession, well-being, or promotion of its object.”
However, love is both simple and complex.
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. Love is not rude, is not selfish, and does not get upset with others. Love does not count up wrongs that have been done. Love takes no pleasure in evil but rejoices over the truth. Love patiently accepts all things. It always trust, always hopes, and always endures. Lover never ends… So these three things continue forever: fiath, hope, and love. And the greatest of these is love.” ~1 CORINTHIANS 13:4–1
Walking by faith
We all say that we are open to change — evolution. But, it can be really hard when it is our job and relationships. This is faith.
“So I tell you, don’t worry about the food or drink you need to live, or about the clothes you need for your body. Life is more than food, and the body is more than clothes. Look at the birds in the air. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, but your heavenly Father feeds them. And you know that you are worth much more than the birds.” ~MATTHEW 6:25–26
People, relationships, and attitudes shift. You cannot necessarily control your environment, but you can control your reaction. By sharing some of the principles that I find strength from, this may help you to understand that your path is now taking a different turn. In order to reach your destiny, you will confront challenges and rely on love and faith to propel you forward.
- “Love your enemies and pray for those who hurt you.” ~MATTHEW 5:44
- “So in everything, do to others what you want them to do to you.” ~MATTHEW 7:12
- “Wish good for those who harm you; wish them well and do not curse them. Be happy with those who are happy, and be sad with those who are sad. Live in peace with each other… If someone does wrong to you, do not pay him back by doing wrong to him… Do your best to live in peace with everyone. My friends, do not try to punish others when they wrong you, but wait for God to punish them with his anger. It is written: ‘I will punish those who do wrong; I will repay them,’ says the Lord. But you should do this: ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink. Doing this will be like pouring burning coals on his head.’ Do not let evil defeat you, but defeat evil by doing good.” ~ROMANS 12:14–21
- “Do not gloat when your enemy falls; when they stumble, do not let your heart rejoice, or the LORD will see and disapprove and turn his wrath away from them. Do not fret because of evildoers or be envious of the wicked, for the evildoer has no future hope, and the lamp of the wicked will be snuffed out.” ~PROVERBS 24:17–20
- “The best thing to give your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to your father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all men charity.” ~BENJAMIN FRANKLIN