Today I celebrate female friendships. Oh, and if you`re reading this and not female, please read on. It might bring some light on how they work. To you, my heartiest welcome.
This story begins as others have before: within my years of practice as an English teacher, here in Brazil. A lover of languages and seeker of new friendships, I not only set out to develop and grow throughout my years both in and out of the classrooms, but also searched and felt drawn to like-minded professionals in the schools I worked at.
I remember on weekdays and weekends we gossiped, shared stories of our families, of our relationships at home and away, and through similar passions and interests we grew closer. This was back in the 90s. And guess what….we are still together, thirty years later.
We laugh, we share distress stories, cries for help, and poke fun at a lot of things as we go through life. The great thing about doing all of this digitally means that, yes, each one is in her own corner of the world — and ugh! … gotta work out those time zones !! — yet, still, we stay close.
We go deep into our uncertainties of the world, our struggles as mothers (regardless of two- or four-legged babies), daughters, wives, and this is the glue that keeps us strong. Absolutely zero worries about vulnerability: this is probably the space where being vulnerable is not only permitted but also understood and embraced. Imagine the relief that this is! There is definitely a sense of gratitude here, and I feel so blessed.
Our group has members in Holland, Scotland, Canada, the US as well as in Brazil. No matter. The party is not affected in the least, and the connection is always there. Laughter, tears, gossip … it all comes with the territory.
We’ve pretty much given up on sugarcoating things, choosing to focus on seeing one another as the real person standing (sitting?) in front of us. If you’ve ever watched Grace and Frankie, or Girls 5eva, Bridesmaids or even that 1988 classic, Beaches, you’ll know what I mean — especially if you, dear reader, are a woman.
So let us celebrate sorority. Through thick and thin, we stand close. We stand together. We stand strong.