Besides, the reason I’m writing this at all is because I read through a lot of men’s responses to the Aziz Ansari story. I came away feeling like the pat takeaway for many was the idea of contractual consent = good, rape = bad. Many men framed sexual consent as a private negotiation, a contract negotiated by two parties afforded equal rights and privileges. I saw men pitching phone apps that would lock in a partner’s consent so as to leave a legally binding papertrail. Men were literally congratulating themselves on gaming the moral and ethical concept of consent, their eyes getting twinkly with the batshit idea that this is the million-dollar idea they were born to develop.