When is the last time you healed?
When is the last time you held yourself?
These are not common questions. They are not yet simple concepts or questions with simple understandings. Why is this?
The conversation on healing has long been hidden.
We should all have access to these tools and knowledge, but in my experience these are often siloed conversations, solo experiences, niche tools that have to be found and unearthed, taboos we often are afraid to touch. Because we barely know how to hold them for ourselves within.
But it doesn’t and shouldn’t have to be this way.
In my own journey, it took me 13 years to put all these tools, pieces, knowledge and wisdom together. I refuse to let this experience of suffering be the norm. And yet, it very well is.
From my time down the well of searching for meaning, my place in this world, some assurance of my worthiness, I have been battered, beaten, belittled and yet these are often common experiences as we enter the “real world.” The boss who questioned you at every turn and asked for feedback behind your back. The loss of your dream job and contract as your only golden goose egg in the basket. The internalized trauma of a downturn that leaves lasting marks on your nerves and your psyche. The anxiety that shoots up like a Christmas tree as a first-time contractor and consultant. The look in your eyes when you’re asking someone to love you but in hookup culture that means swipe right say I’m pretty buy me a drink in the club. The emptiness that comes from all of these because in each situation you were giving your power away. The good news? There is a bottom.
Healing includes a set of tools, skills, processes, and mindset (frames) that are learnable and accessible.
I’m on a mission to release these into the world. To create and elevate a shared knowledge and understanding of healing that it is something that is central to each of our lives.
We all suffer. It is central to human experience. It gives a depth to our lives. It holds the gold we can mine for our gifts and greatest understanding and compassion. We have suffered for far too long — by not being able to fully express ourselves, by not learning social and emotional intelligence, by ignoring the emotional experience so that we never share it with others in ways that make us feel seen and heard and alive. This exists across all relationships and in the systems and structures that are the predominant schools of thought that shape how we show up to work, what we think success looks like, what it means to be strong or be “a man” or be the ideal desired mother or father. We have been playing in severely broken paradigms that have dampened if not erased our capacity to feel, to express, to emote, to hold and be held. And this very thing is killing us from the inside out.
There is so much more to say on this, so many more of my personal experiences of how I’ve lived this through my search of worthiness in work and relationships. I’m beginning this work by sharing that story here: http://www.inhealingcolor.com/my-story
I am also beginning this work by declaring healing the most central element of our time. And it’s missing from our collective conversations of the future, of our search for meaning in life and work, missing from our relationships, missing from activism, and missing from our social container, threads, and understanding of the world. It’s missing from what it means to be human, what it means to be with each other in the world, what it means to be with each other in our friendships, our homes, our lives.
Healing is central to moving forward together. To generating hope. To creating a new reality we can only dream of together, by facing our shadows, and seeing our deepest desires and needs, and being in touch and intimate with ourselves and our wisdom within.
Will you join me on this journey?
Will you revolutionize your own life through healing?
Will you take the first step of looking at this work?
Are you willing to learn how to hold and love and truly see yourself?
The journey begins here: http://www.inhealingcolor.com
