
🚨🚨#PSA 🚨🚨 As an empath, I’ve definitely been suckered into unhealthy relationships with narcissists and they were all disappointing, demoralizing and a complete waste of time. Luckily, I learned the signs and now stay far away from these types of people. The problem is that they are everywhere — especially in big cities like LA and NY where they thrive. Like fairies in the show “True Blood,” empaths attract narcissists, so you have to be vigilant in looking out for yourself. No one is going to do it for you…
So to all my empath brethren out there, listen to this warning!! Do not invest your special and much needed light, love and compassion into these selfish vapid vampires who will “love bomb” you with everything you want to hear and then leave you hanging when they can’t/won’t follow through on those promises. They will then make you out as being difficult or causing problems when you question them or try to address the issues, as any adult in a healthy relationship would. The sad truth is that they are never going to take responsibility or answer you honestly, so inevitably you wonder what you did to cause the change, but it’s not you. It was never you. They are just incapable of having healthy reciprocal relationships. They get off on the power trip of causing chaos and knocking people down and it’s not ok.
As empaths, we empathize. We try to understand. We try to help and heal others, which makes us vulnerable to being tethered to the thankless and toxic dance of codependency. That is a choice, however, if you are aware enough to see it. It starts with knowing it will never be a healthy balanced relationship and that you deserve infinitely better. Honestly, the only way to stop this dynamic is to end it and drop all communication. It really is that futile and that serious. A red flag to look out for is when you find yourself apologizing to them when they should be apologizing to you. This is a byproduct of #gaslighting, which can be insidious and take root if gone unchecked.
Understand that gaslighting, manipulation, #breadcrumbing and using others to prop up their weak egos are what these sick people are all about. And sadly, there is nothing you can do — no amount of love or effort you give to them that will ever make them care about anyone but themselves or change who they are. They are sociopaths. They are truly broken people and I don’t say that as hyperbole. The only answer is to walk/run away as fast as you can and don’t look back. It’s their problem. Not yours! The only thing you did wrong was love/care for them too much. It’s painful and confusing and these relationships should be avoided at all costs.
Learn from my mistakes. No matter how attracted you are or how smart, successful or charming, I promise the drama and discord they will bring into your life are not worth it! ❤️💔❤️