Do not have enough hearts.

This is why I’m against fault and blame from the general public.

If you want to talk about guilt and the justice system, that’s another conversation, because it involves a jury of peers (peers being other mothers that know what it’s like to have two of your toddlers run off in separate directions), and a burden of proof to be found guilty.

But the internet system of fault relies only on speculation and hypotheticals, and the accused must prove themselves innocent. Good thing our justice system doesn’t work this way, even though some want it to.

As a professional businessman and technically skilled, finding blame and fault does me no good. It’s literally unproductive. That’s not to say I don’t try to find failure or identify improvement. It’s just that finding fault only results in disrupting the team, throwing people under the bus, and demoralizing the workplace. (Your “crazy” mom hypothesis).

As a father, finding blame and fault does me no good, for the same reasons. It only serves to throw a family member under the bus and demoralize my family. Finding points of failure and improvement are far more productive.

Now, even though it seems like “fault” and “failure/improvement” are the same, they are not. For example, fault implies a single entity is guilty of excessive negligence. However, failure and improvement includes the whole range of “bad things happened”, even from external persons or forces of nature. For example, the car slipped off the driveway because of ice. Who’s fault is it? No one’s. Someone could argue, “But you should have known,” but it’s impossible to know and predict everything. However, it was a point of failure. One could say, “Improvement: When the weather or season changes, identify preparation steps.” Now you have something productive. Now you have something that everyone in the team can work on.