How overthinking might help you finally make peace with yourself.

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As someone who overthinks and over analyzes every little detail of life, I know the kind of scrutiny we put ourselves through every moment of our existence. Every lingering thought becomes something we ponder over for almost a lifetime. I’ve even caught myself feeling guilty for a certain thought crossing my head for months. A blank slate is what we wish for, but it doesn’t happen — and the more you think about shoving away a thought, the more it returns to haunt you, sometimes even in your dreams. Making peace with yourself is a journey, a brave one, where you become self aware and further experiences that you go on to have, make disruptions in you, but eventually only you can truly identify your true, ugly, convulated head space. While people may let you delusion into thinking of yourself as better off or worse, eventually once that state of mind is lost, you’re back in your even more messy and labyrinth of a mental state. What can you do? What should you do? A therapist, I dare not. Often the empathy you need isn’t what you get — often, there’s more guilt tripping — well, that’s one solution — but what for those who are not comfortable opening up to a stranger because now there are trust issues, such that you no more trust your judgement of situations.

All that’s not lost is hope. Overthinking, anxiety and depression are closely connected, but this over thinking head of yours keeps you lingering to a hope if you let it. I observed that when I don’t try to shove my thoughts away, and not create a taboo for negative thoughts, there is scope for some hope. When I create a non-judgmental space for my thoughts, it helps me at least let them be with a pinch of salt or with all seriousness. Making peace is all about letting things be, things of the past that cannot be changed will stay, but after analyzing everything you want to of those flashes that haunt you — you’d find a resolve, that’s waiting to be realized within you. No one else can bring out your resolve, not your venting board of a friend, not your mom, and not your dog, it will only come from within. Actively seek it, just let the thoughts flow in, try finding the why’s of things when, think of that moment when you did something — if it didn’t impact anyone in real time, and at present, seek what you can learn from it and no, don’t move on. Let it stay, let it play itself in your mind until it exhausts, that’s the only way you’ll encounter peace. Running away from it won’t help, face it within you — not with a vent out, but a vent in.

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