Read this if you are heartbroken.

We don’t suffer because we break up with someone. We suffer because we have to admit it to ourselves.
That we made a mistake.
You see, when you meet people, you create your own version of them.
You imagine they are this and that and decide they might meet your expectations.
What people show to you, it is not really who they are. The real shit we keep for ourselves longer than we care to admit. You know that because you do the same. And when we start to show our real side plus when we start to change (because yeah, we change a lot. We are constantly a work in progress), it is when we split up.
And, surprise surprise: that one was not your soulmate after all, which means that you silly, picked the wrong one.
Here is when our ego starts its job: suffering. You are sad and partially, yes, because of all the memories you two had together. But can I tell you something? Memories like these, they fade away. Let the time take care of it while you keep yourself busy with your present.
The other part of suffering — the big one is:
Why? Why on earth was he/she not the right one? What about all the plans you made together? How are you gonna deal with the friends in common? How do you tell your parents that you two are no longer a couple? Are you too old to be single? Being single is a disaster, you might think. What if they meet someone before you meet someone? What if they meet someone better than you?
And I could keep going on about our shitty break-up rituals, but let’s focus: All this?
Guilt.
You feel guilty, deep down because you feel responsible for choosing the wrong person. How didn’t you see this coming? Were you blind?
Well I don’t know.
What I do know is that you blame yourself for not having the forever together thing right?
You need to forgive yourself and accept that, well, we all break up a few times to finally meet our other half or to figure out we actually don’t need a partner.
And hey, you had some relationships and maybe, they happened to teach you something. We can always learn from each other.
Try to see the whole situation as chance to restart, a beautiful blank page. Because here is the truth: it had to end so you could begin.
There is no one to blame if the only thing happening is your own growth.
