Choosing to Ditch the Guest List Can Set You Free

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So, you began this story of Happily Ever After, planning for a wedding with guests, a wedding party, venue and cake. Then, COVID_19 brought all of it to a screeching halt; no parties or gatherings (church or otherwise), masks are required, and social distancing is mandatory. Your plans have all been tossed into the trash and you are forced to decide whether to postpone your new life together or find a new way to keep your wedding date and choose to elope.

The term elope can be traced back to the 14th century where the original definition meant to leave your spouse and run away with your lover. By the 1800’s; however, it had changed to the the more contemporary meaning of running away to get married. Today, you can hear alternatives to the term elope such as “destination weddings” or “small wedding”. Whatever you decide to call it, it means you have made the conscious choice to marry without too many (or any) guests.

Some of you may be holding onto the idea that you have to travel to Las Vegas to get married, but this isn’t the case. There are wedding officiants, celebrants, judges, and ministers who would be more than happy to help you get married in any location. All you have to do to elope includes the following steps:

  1. Obtain a wedding license. Depending on where you live right now, you may or may not be able to get a license. Due to COVID_19, many county licensing departments allow for online application instead of going to the offices to apply. Expect to pay a fee for your license and those fees vary from state to state.

Choosing to elope may not be the dream wedding you always wanted. And just because you elope, doesn’t mean you can’t have a bigger, family and friend celebration at a later date. It’s not uncommon for couples to elope and then have another ceremony later. Getting married with a small ceremony in front of a few witnesses frees you up to have so many options you wouldn’t have normally thought of.

Eloping can be exciting. Stealing away with the one you love is romantic. However you choose, you’re still married in the end and you will have a unique story to tell your family and friends in the years to come.

Schedule an Elopement or Small Wedding Consultation

If you’re ready to schedule your elopement or small wedding in Tacoma, Washington or surrounding areas, contact A Small Wedding for you FREE ceremony consultation.

Rev. Lori Erwin-Johnson is a wedding officiant and wellbeing coach looking to help individuals and couples find their Happily Ever After. Visit her website to learn more about her.

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