“Trans women are women and female because, like woman, our understanding of what makes someone female is shaped by the culture we live in and the power we have in relation to her.”
Our understanding of what makes someone female is based on biological reality.
Our understanding of how females should act and be treated is based on culture.
These are totally different things. The issue has never been someone looking at a new born and documenting their observed biology. The issue was that when people observed that this newborn had the biology of a female she was deemed worthless compared to males.
As nice as it may be to let everyone just be whatever they want, such a lack of boundaries has very real effects on oppressed groups who need the ability to define themselves. Women cannot fight against their sex based oppression if they are forced to include males into the definitions of woman and female. It doesn’t matter what trans women would like to be, what they call themselves, or even what we call them. They will still be biologically male, socialized male, and as a result have no understanding or actual experience of what it means to be female in this world and oppressed because of it. Our identities are not just words, they are tied to physical realities.
As a black lesbian I find the fact that people can recognize these issues when confronted with transracialism and not transgenderism quite alarming. It is blatant cognitive dissonance. My black skin does not define me as a whole, my sole attraction to females does not define me as a whole, my biological sex does not define me as a whole, but they are all unchangeable realities about me that I cannot escape and affect my every day life. I have no desire to entertain people who think they can label themselves into the realities of my existence simply because they’d like to live it.
I’m not sure why rewriting reality has become a necessity to supporting trans people. There are trans people who fully understand that they cannot change their sex and that boundaries exist for a reason, but wish to seek help for the pain of their dysphoria. But instead of supporting this viewpoint which is grounded in reality, the current model of support is based on nothing more than affirming the desire of a reality at the expense of those actually living such a reality.