Tech Bros (I’ll tell you all about it)
I’m warning you now, this isn’t a happy piece of writing. It’s more therapeutic for me than anything. I woke up yesterday morning to an awful text about a friend, Rohan Jain, recently passing away. Unable to make sense of this and denying such news I wanted answers. Rohan and I worked at Square together in the early starts of our career in tech where we were detecting fraud and managing risk. And strangely in this moment I found myself doing what our job was like back in the day — trying to find answers. After asking questions, finding the original source, and asking mutual friends who may know the person so many degrees separated from me, it was finally confirmed. I’m still in shock and denial with hearing such news. After a few tears I’m left wondering, how do I mourn such a loss of a friend? I decided I wanted to share an open letter with how I’m feeling in this moment of sadness addressed to forever my friend, Rohan.
You know the craziest thing about hearing this news about your passing? I was having drinks with friends the night before making the argument about how the peripheral friendships you make in life are strangely sometimes the most meaningful. Whenever people would ask me what I thought of you, the words that I would almost always use without skipping a beat were jokester, clown, hustler, and entrepreneur. While that’s how I described you the meanings of those words always really translated to you being funny, caring, hard-working, and motivated. And what saddens me is that people no longer have a chance to meet you the way I just described you.
I kind of wonder if people will ever remember that you used to gamble via online poker back in college (and even raked in some money). Or that you moonlighted as a Quora celebrity answering questions on tech and building a following. Or that you made risky ass bets buying call options on Apple like a madman. Or that you were a vegetarian who loved Taco Bell. Or that you spun up two startups and executed on your vision that people rarely saw. Or that above all of this you did it as a means to provide for your family and just lived life.
I’m glad to have met you during a time where we both worked in tech, talked about tech, and lived our lives through tech. Because in sad times like this, living our lives through tech allows me to find gems of how we interacted with each other as friends no matter where we were in the world:
Without question the best part about working in a startup is the people you work with. Our friendship and the bonds we made, especially with the people who will miss you, are proof of that. I can’t help but think that while we can’t create future memories, I’ll cherish the ones we had. I’ll miss you man. We’ll keep hustling for you.
In the spirit of sadness and humor rolled up into one, we’ll tell you all about it when we see you again:
Love ya brotha,