An observation of the world that values your heart less than your brain

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In today’s world, it is more valuable to be a successful person than to be a good person. Your brain is valued more than your heart. People are expected to compete and be ambitious for money because it is the only metric that is used to calculate success.

The ultimate goal is to win, win, and also win. It does not matter what you crush along the way, all the flowers can die for you to climb that top of the mountain. But the worst part is not this, it is that no one asks if you want to climb…


Avoid them to save all kinds of relationships

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Unpopular opinion: Relationships can be foreseeable.

Human relationships are complicated things and they require a lot of effort. But sometimes no matter what we do, things go wrong and we find ourselves faced with endless communication problems that may lead to a downfall.

It is easy to feel hopeless and lost when this occurs, but a study conducted by Doctor John Gottman has made it easier to detect these problems that may lead to the collapse of a relationship and avoid them.

In his study, Doctor Gottman observed 130 newlywed couples, and according to his analysis, he was able to…


A recipe to have a growth mindset

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Unpopular opinion: The idea of being in control is a drug, and has many side effects.

When we hear the word “safety”, it can remind us of things like love, belonging, and comfort. But sometimes the idea of safety can get mixed up with fears, and turn into a trap that stops us from fulfilling our full potential.

As a person, who used to be so afraid of uncertainty, I’ve had the chance to observe the safety trap first hand. …


And instead, focus on internal validation

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Unpopular opinion: Your internal applause needs to be loudest.

One of the most dangerous things to rely on is others’ validation. People have their own subjective opinions and ideas, and they change with time. But many of us fall into the trap of trying to make everyone agree with our life choices.

When I was younger, I used to try to convince everyone to agree with every single decision I’d make for my life. This resulted in me reconsidering the directions I was sure of and feeling lost. But this also taught me that I needed to take the wheel…


And a recipe to avoid it

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Unpopular opinion: Life is a game which you can lose, or win.

Before starting, I’d like to say that the idea of winning in life should not be based on standards because it can mean different for each individual. This can include material things as well as spiritual and can vary from getting rich to finding love. But at the end of the day to it is up to us to discover what it means to win in life means.

I also understand that to live through life and see it as the only experience and not something to win…


And how to avoid being misled by it

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Unpopular opinion: Meaning is a dangerous concept.

I believe the biggest misconceptions come from the meanings we attach to things. These meanings blur our visions, change our morals, and change who we are. For example, many of us attach the meaning of worthiness to outside validation and lose our way in order to sustain our image in other people’s eyes.

Another important example would the common belief that time is money. It is actually a quote said by Benjamin Franklin that takes place in George Fisher’s 1748 book. I also understand why would anyone see time as money, but I…


And start living instead

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Unpopular opinion: Perfectionism is a theatre.

To act in manners and to appear as flawless can be an ideal, but it is just that, an ideal. Making no mistakes, or never saying the wrong thing can only be achieved by doing or saying nothing at all.

Recently I’ve come to realize that, subconsciously, being perceived as perfect has been my compass all my life. But since it is an unachievable and unsustainable goal, it caused me to waste so much time and energy.

So after understanding this concept, I’ve started working on not constantly worry about appearing perfect and it…


And a recipe to find strength in them

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It is often said that one looks at their life and its’ problem with a magnifying glass while not noticing that everyone has their own problems. I think this is a powerful way of looking at life and can be a life-saver at times. But I also believe that the wars we fight silently, whether they are in our lives or in our heads, still deserve the be valued and recognized.

When I was younger, I didn’t like to think of unpleasant things that happened and found peace by forgiving and forgetting. But this resulted in me not noticing all…


An observation of toxic kindness

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Unpopular opinion: Being too kind can be dangerous.

To talk nicely, act thoughtfully, and care about others are all traits of a kind soul. But too much of everything is bad and for some of us, these traits become less of good behavior and more of a dangerous habit.

Kindness can become toxic when making others comfortable becomes a priority and boundaries get faded. This mindset results in trying to keep your relationships conflict-free and to achieve that overly-kind people will let their boundaries get stepped over to keep it peaceful.

But the thing about being overly-kind is that it…


And turn it into reality instead

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Unpopular opinion: Without proper care, dreams can die.

In life, my dreams have always been life-savers and a source of hope. I believe this is one of the reasons why I’ve always respected and valued them. But recently I’ve come to realize that dreams are alive, and as anything alive, they can also die without proper care.

After this realization, I started working on how to nourish my dreams and keep them alive. This way I went from being someone who was lost in their imagination, to someone who works on their dream to turn it into reality.

Do you…

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