Effective communication is simply ensuring that the message sent is rightly received and accurately interpreted by the receiver.

Disagreements can be resolved more easily using effective communication skills and paying more attention to what is making the other person upset.

It is very vital for honest communication to be part of a healthy relationship. Agree to be honest. Sometimes the truth hurts, but it’s the key to a healthy relationship.

Admit that you aren’t always perfect and apologize when you make a mistake instead of making excuses. You will feel better and it will help strengthen your relationship.

Openness: Genesis 2:25 tells us that Adam and his wife were “…Naked and not ashamed”. This verse explains more about their physical state, but also about all that concerns them; it talks about transparency! Being transparent means being free of secrets! When a partner is not open with his girlfriend/bae/spouse and vice versa, it is because they don’t communicate effectively.

Understanding: Proverbs 24:3 “Through [skillful and godly] wisdom a house [a life, a home, a family] is built,
 And by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation]”,
 Where there is no understanding, there will always be chaos, frustrations, misunderstandings, and assumptions.

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships” — Henry Winkler

The more you talk to each other (communication), the more you understand each other. Understanding helps you read in between the lines. It’s very important for us to know that for our relationships to work, we must genuinely put in efforts! (Hehe…its hard abi!)

You put in genuine efforts by making out time to do the little but necessary things like sending a lovely message appreciating your partner, make a call even when that your daily schedule is tight and reach out to your partner when he/she has a challenge even though you don’t have a solution by simply praying. The various ways explained above all ball down to communicating effectively in your relationships.

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Busayo Omoniyi — Relationship Category Letter to a Lady