We can choose to suffer and blame or we can choose to have a good day.

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When we wake up every morning we have a choice to make about the type of day we want to have. I have known this for a while but it came into stark focus when I had ten days in the bush with a group of sixteen-year-olds. I wrote but not so much about what I learnt from observing the young people.

I will say upfront that the program was physically challenging…in fact, downright hard. One of the kids asked me one day how old I was (51). She did the maths and determined…


“Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back, everything is different.” C.S.Lewis

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How often do you feel like you are in a rut and going nowhere fast? That you are just doing the same slog day in day out? How you just can’t seem to be the person you want to be. That you still get triggered by things you thought you had healed from.

Small changes add up

Sometimes it’s important to stop and look back at how far you have come rather than beating yourself up about “how far you still have to go.” …


And what to do about it

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Lifestyle Inflation: The first world problem where as you get wealthier you start to feel poorer!

When I was at uni I managed to pay rent, go out regularly and see bands, I put fuel in my car, paid for my hobbies, bills and lifestyle and still managed to put a little bit aside for emergencies. When I got my first job that all changed. I had heaps more money coming in but nothing was getting set aside for emergencies or any other saving.

That my friends, is an example of lifestyle inflation: the increase in ones spending that aligns…


Unpacking some serious money mindset issues!

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I had a lovely long lunch with a girlfriend today. We solved all the usual world problems before the conversation turned to plans for the future and how she and her partner are thinking of buying a property together. They have an idea for a small business to run from the property. It sounded brilliant but she kept getting hung up the fact he had more money than she did and she had actually stopped them making an offer because of this.

“I’ll have to think about it again when I’ve saved more money,” she said.

The thing is that…


Why The Right Mindset Is Key To Enjoying The Time

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Here in Australia, it’s fair to say we’re living in a COVID bubble. Barely any community transmission and a manageable number of cases in hotel quarantine from overseas. It’s mostly due to how quickly our State and Federal Governments have been to shut borders and lockdown cities when there is a flare-up. I have no idea if this is the best course of action but it’s fantastic that we are pretty much free to go about our lives unencumbered.

By Christmas last year, most of our State borders were re-opened so I took the opportunity to head back home to…


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Archetype is a funny word when used in relation to psychology or personal growth. When I used to read it or hear about it I found it a bit woo woo really, and often railed that “I don’t fit into a box”. How the tide turns and I now find myself using archetypes in my money mindset coaching.

noun

1. the original pattern or model from which all things of the same kind are copied or on which they are based; a model or first form; prototype.

2. (in Jungian psychology) a collectively inherited unconscious idea, pattern of thought, image…


Baby steps to help you reduce the number of decisions you need to make in a day.

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I recently spent 10 days in the bush with a group of 16-year-olds. On this expedition, my role, as the accompanying adult was really just to make sure they didn’t do something stupid! Otherwise, the kids voted in 2 leaders for the day who guided the team through all the main decisions. I wrote a couple of about the , but I only briefly commented on the joy, for me, of only having few decisions to make each day.

Every day the kids decided:

  • How fast we hiked: Our speed in getting from point A to point B was…


It’s Time To Pause, Reflect And Celebrate

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I think I will look back at 2020 as a defining year for me (and I’m sure I won’t be the only one). A year that will always stick in my memory. That’s not to say I don’t remember things that have happened before, of course I do, but they are generally single events… graduation, wedding, baby, holidays, heartbreak. There has never been a whole year that stands out.

It has been a year that in some respects seems to have stretched on forever but in other ways has been over in a blink of an eye. It seems like…


And how to try a minimalist approach to Christmas this year.

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Black Friday Sales, Christmas, Back to School, Valentines Day, Easter, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Birthday….The message is always the same - if you love me you must buy me stuff to show me how much you care.

The marketing and advertising industry is a clever machine. In partnership with retailers around the world, they have conspired to turn any occasion into a reason to get your wallet out. They have managed to convince us that to have the perfect family holiday we need to go to the latest exotic location. Or that if we love our Mother’s we will buy…


The Benefits Of Three Weeks Unplugged

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If I said you were to spend three weeks without any technology at all… no email, computer, websites, texts, social media, messaging apps, gaming, news (no US election news YAY), Medium… how would you feel? Excited, nonchalant or terrified?

For me, it started with ten days where I was going on an Outward Bound program with my daughter’s school. We were spending ten days in the bush with exceptionally limited phone reception. As part of the program, the young people weren’t allowed to take any devices but for me as the accompanying adult, it was optional. …

Lisa Farnell

An Aussie Money mindset coach who loves to write about money, mindset and life experiences!

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