I’m Still Single Because I Don’t Want to Marry an Asshole
Ezinne Ukoha

oh hell yes ezinne!

i am lucky enough to have fallen into a career where i make enough money to support a child, so i became a solo mama by choice, at age 35. i hadn’t found The Man yet, but i wanted to be a mother very much, and so i became one. she is the joy of my life, and i am so thankful for her. people say things like, oh, of course you’ll find someone some day, don’t give up, there are some good ones out there… and i’m always thinking “but… i don’t really WANT one.” if the purpose of mating is to have kids, well, i already have mine. and i don’t really feel that 20–30 something desire to find me a man. the ONLY reason i feel i “should” is because i do want my daughter to grow up with some kind of father figure. but she has my dad and a couple of my best friends (her “uncles”) and i don’t think marrying someone just to have a stepdad for my daughter is the best reason ;) truthfully, i don’t think a man exists who has the emotional intelligence and communication skills that i want in a partner, and unless some miracle man (or woman, maybe?) comes along, i am perfectly content with my life the way it is, with my friends, family, and community. ❤