THE GIGO EFFECT
GIGO, Garbage in Garbage out.
This might as well be the most fundamental law that governs our universe today. Plants as well as humans have constantly proven it. It is the law of “You will reap what you sow.” When you sow orange seeds, it is impossible to reap mangoes. So how then does this apply to our lives? My question to you is, what are you letting in? What words, what sounds, what images are you giving privilege to in your life?
A year ago, I experienced a great change in my life. I had to move across the world away from my family, something I had never done in my life. At the beginning I was extremely excited, because it was such a great opportunity and being the ‘locked up’ child I was, it was finally a chance to be free. On my way, I had a terrible experience, and for the first time in my life I felt belittled and beat down by someone else. Instead of brushing it off and moving forward (I mean this person did not even know who I was, how could I allow her to get into my head?) , I held onto it. It was something I did not know how to receive but sadly it shaped the rest of my year. I held dearly to the image of me that she had and I transferred it to everyone else of her kind. Due to this, I became a lone-ranger. I really did not want to be around people and this made me feel even worse because I had to keep making excuses for it. This began the journey of self destruction. I constantly beat myself down, telling myself I was not good enough, that the only thing I was good at was academics. I stopped feeling great about myself. This took me deep into the comparison circle, comparing myself to others causing me to beat myself down even more. As I did this I attracted more experiences to myself that reflected all the negativity I was feeding myself with. For sure, in a whole year the only major thing I could be proud of was my academic achievements. I had no social life, I was beat down, and had zero will to live. It was all because of the things I fed myself with. Once I began to read as I used to before, watch positive videos, affirm myself everyday, things changed. I completely changed my circle and gave most of my time to people who uplifted me, believed in me and gave me the will to push forward. My life completely changed, I became more joyful, more fired up to run after my destiny and this even inspired me to carry others with me. All it took was a change in what I told myself and the narratives I chose to pick from those around me.
If I was kind to myself and spoke uplifting words to myself at the beginning it would be a totally different story. Be kind to yourself. When you look into the mirror, remind yourself how good looking you are, how great you are, how much of a success you are. Remind yourself of all the good things that you have done, no matter how small it is. Build yourself up. Hey! The world is already so negative, why do you want to add yourself to that cycle? Be the one to move yourself towards the place you want to go to. This is the ultimate rule: If you cannot say it to your parent, friend or a stranger, do not say it to yourself! Be real with yourself but do not under any circumstance bring yourself down. Hold yourself to the fire and take responsibility for your life, but take the failures as a lesson and successes as an indication that you are moving in the right direction. Be kind!
A human being’s surrounding greatly determines who they are. You become the average of the people you hang out with. This may sound very cliche but it is extremely true. Please stay away from people who feed you with negativity. Stop holding pity parties with people. If you do so you will never move. You will stay there, constantly complaining and attracting more of what you complain about to yourself. Keep people who uplift you, friends who inspire you and allow you to see the greatness within yourself. Shut your ears to the naysayers. If I listened to people’s opinions I would not be writing and sharing this post today. Keep people who want to move ahead and take that journey together.
Another important thing is reading books. Read books that uplift you. Books that light up the path towards your destiny. Some people only read erotic books and romance novels then expect to be at the same level with Bill Gates and the rest of the elite in the world. It is never going to happen. What you feed in is what you give out! That is just how it is. So fill your mind with books, movies, videos and music that will take you to the next level in your life. Books give you virtual mentors and advice from people who have been there and made it, what more could you ask for?
In a nutshell…
You are responsible for your life, you are responsible for what you feed your mind with. Feed your mind with the right things, and you will see the results. In the words of Robin Sharma, treat your mind like a garden that needs to be tended.
All the best as you control the GIGO effect in your life. Remember, you deserve the life you want to live.
Written By: Shinina Muthiora (Founder,LifeDeserved & Biomedical Engineering U-grad, UBC)