I’m so glad to hear you want to try out this new activity! I used google and yelp to find the different studios in my area.
I think dancing is a great thing to do; both from the fitness/health perspective, but also as a means of distraction from the stress of daily life.
When I first started pole, I had no upper body strength and I sucked at it. If you’re interested, don’t let anyone or anything stop you!