codependency tells us we need another person to fulfill us and we’re empty when they’re not around. Love is patient. codependency is controlling. Love is selfless. codependency is selfish. it says, “i need you to make me feel valued, to make me feel whole.” we are guilty of waiting for someone to show us love that we should be anchored in with God for ourselves. when it’s mainly about about what’s in it for you isn’t love. It’s neediness. loving with the fullness of the God kind of love should genuinely be about the other person. it says i choose to be with you; not i need to be with you. so begin to know your own worth and embrace your own life, then share it.
Sometimes love in life is confusing. so instead of saying what love is, let’s start with what love isn’t. Love is not what the movies and hit songs tells us it is. Love does not hurt, love isn’t forceful, jealousy isn’t love, jealousy is fear, finally, your love cannot be reserved for one person.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
1 Corinthians 13:4–7
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
1 Corinthians 13:13
Love is a wonderful tool that everyone can use to adhere the world back together. But first, we must understand what love isn’t, before we understand what love it.