- we’ve heard it all before princesses

Lily Yang on child sex trafficking
Lily Yang on child sex trafficking

A couple of years ago there was a fear the sky was falling. Life as we knew it, at least life for a group of selfish women was concerned, was over. The reason? A sleazy website called “Backpage”, which was complicit in the trafficking of children for sex, was being shut down by the FBI and, running scared, a few others like “Craig’s List”, followed suit. …


Lily Yang’s Audrey Hepurn in Breakfast at Tiffanys
Lily Yang’s Audrey Hepurn in Breakfast at Tiffanys
Credit: Paramount Pictures

A lady of the night. The lure of her is so tempting, so full of mystery, and a privileged few drift off to enjoy many and wonderful imagined fantasies, while the rest of us merely dream about them.

So why is it that when the lights come on, our stereotypes about sex workers are so degrading? These same women dare not write “sex worker” and, horror of horrors, “prostitute” on their CV or on an application for a rental apartment for fear of being judged, as they so often are, as drug-addicted whores with STD’s galore, likely homeless with a bikie-type pimp lording over them, taking their money and giving them a beating in return. There is absolutely nothing about this description that could entice a man to become a client, a woman to become a friend, or for society to accept. Furthermore, for those who harbour these stereotypes, legal brothels are surely breeding grounds for people like this, even luring innocent young women into their black widow’s embrace. …


- let this be the start, not the end, of this investigation

Lily Yang article on Epstein’s suicide
Lily Yang article on Epstein’s suicide
Photo: National Vanguard

Recently I published a post about the arrest of 66-year-old hedge fund billionaire Jeffrey Epstein, charged with sex trafficking and paying underage girls to give “massages” in his luxurious homes and Virgin Islands retreats. The irony of the latter destination should not be lost on anyone.

A few days ago, it was reported that he took his own life in a New York jail cell. Few will mourn, many will sleep more easily. In my opinion, he showed us he was too timid to face the shameful crimes for which he stood accused.

What else does this tell me about Epstein? Well, that perhaps he felt remorse about misusing his power and wealth, hiding behind his position, money and lawyers to keep from the public gaze to avoid the full legal wrath for his crimes. But I don’t think I’m fooling anyone: much more likely this predator was ashamed about being exposed and abandoned by rich friends, more than he was feeling conscience-stricken. …


- should we give up our aura of sensuality and sexiness for equality and safety?

Lily Yang blog with Rousseau’s dreamer
Lily Yang blog with Rousseau’s dreamer
Artist: Theodore Roussel

I silently cursed him for shaking me awake; it was almost 4.00 am and until then I’d been enjoying a full surround-sound mental movie. Bleary-eyed, I sleepwalked to my computer. My fingers ignored the rules of grammar, continuity and spelling in their haste to capture our night together as I free-associated the stream of thoughts that poured onto the screen from a dream so vivid, I knew I must write down before it was lost. Then I stumbled back into bed, exhausted from the effort.

For the next 3 days I stared at my third-grade essay. Slowly, the symbols began their metamorphosis as consciousness grappled to apply its rules of logic and order. I recognised straightaway the places and everyday things he’d sequestered from my unconscious, like a baffling Sudoku to add potency and reality to his dream-work: a sofa from my shop, some surgical gloves used in the kitchen, some female faces I knew, the biography of an Indian I’d been reading. Even the Assembly Room from primary school, complete with its glass and wood panelled wall, copied faithfully from an old childhood photograph I’d just unearthed in our attic as my husband and I had been rummaging through our histories. My dream remains haunting to me, even now, as I search for a deserving narrative to link the elements to each other. …


- wealthy, powerful men and illegal sexual involvement with girls, and here we are again.

Lily Yang’s blog about sex, money and crimes at Crown casino
Lily Yang’s blog about sex, money and crimes at Crown casino
Photo credit: Melbourne Age

The past week has held my attention with the Crown Casino debacle as more scandal comes to light. Being in my neighbourhood, it’s been all over the news, and of course involves my heartland, China, so it was quick to grab my interest on a few fronts. The main issue is around promoting gambling at Melbourne’s Crown Casino in China, where the promotion of gambling is against the law. And of course, the trafficking of women for sex is involved in the mix too. …


- is it still those childhood, Oedipus fantasies?

Photo of Madonna Whore dilemma from Lily Yang
Photo of Madonna Whore dilemma from Lily Yang
Photograph: Elizabeth Hevert

One of the biggest mysteries in the world of relationships is why do men in serious and committed relationships stray when they can get sex right there in their own backyard.

For those, like me, who are fascinated by this seemingly self-destructive behaviour, we could study the work of the early psychiatrists like Sigmund Freud, who thought it was a symptom of what he called the “Madonna/whore syndrome”. Sigmund was the pioneer of psychoanalysis and a man driven by theories of unconscious childhood urges lurking just beneath our veneer of social morality. He proposed the answer lay in the way men divided women into two types: the wives and mothers of their children (picture-perfect angels of purity), and the raw, lust-filled harlots who were only good for one thing, which was to satisfy the pent-up desires of men, thus protecting their wives from their unseemly ravages of desire. I suppose the idea of cheating never really came up as a problem. The theory went that men chose one type to marry, the other type to have raunchy sex with on the side, and that everyone should be pleased with the arrangement. …


- the Top 5 list to get you great sex in a brothel

A photo of the world of Lily Yang representing The Cherry Tree Garden
A photo of the world of Lily Yang representing The Cherry Tree Garden
Photo courtesy of Lily Yang & PhotoFunia

M y last few blog posts have been quite serious in nature, and whilst these were very necessary to share, I thought I would lighten the mood a bit and share my personal top suggestions for finding the right “house of sin,” before you waste that precious hour of your life you’ll never get back.

When we find an establishment that really impresses us with their service, we’re keen to keep going back because we’ve found a gem, rather than going somewhere else. When I was at the hairdresser recently, my hair stylist was telling me she and her family always go to the same Bali destination every year because they always have such a great time. ‘Why risk the possibility of having a disappointing time somewhere else?’ she asks, and of course she’s right. Also, note that she is my hair stylist. …


- why are these monsters beyond the reach of the law and can enjoy the protection that wealth affords them?

Convicted child sex trafficker Jeffrey Epstein arrested and charged. Article by Lily Yang
Convicted child sex trafficker Jeffrey Epstein arrested and charged. Article by Lily Yang
Photo Courtesy Lily Yang

There is no great surprise in learning that Jeffrey Epstein has just been charged with sexual offences against girls as young as 14; he’s a serial trafficker of underage girls. He was accused over the weekend of paying underage girls hundreds of dollars to come into his various homes in New York and Florida and give “massages”, between 2002 and 2005. The 66-year-old hedge fund manager was arrested as he arrived in the US from a trip to Paris. It’s about time.

It appears he also provided the sexual services of his victims to his mates, for fun or for favours, many of whom are in positions of great power. Under the media’s gaze they are now scurrying down their boltholes or looking like deer caught in headlights. …


“Ask Lily” is a humorous agony aunt column for advice on relationships
“Ask Lily” is a humorous agony aunt column for advice on relationships
Image courtesy of Lily Yang

Recently I decided that what the world needs is a “Dear Abby” concept for the millennium, and as an experienced sex industry commentator and author, I am perfectly placed to offer my infamous tongue-in-cheek responses to the great many love, sex and relationship dilemmas of these times.

We can all acknowledge that a lot has changed since Abigail Van Buren (or “Dear Abby” as we knew her) started to make waves in the American media back in 1956. …


- fact is, it isn’t much different to any job, except for the product itself and the absence of buyer’s remorse!

photo of a pretty girl in Lily Yang’s The Cherry Tree Garden
photo of a pretty girl in Lily Yang’s The Cherry Tree Garden

The vision some of us have of those working in the world’s oldest profession is admittedly rather bleak. Emaciated women, rife with STI’s and addicted to drugs, controlled by the proverbial pimp with a fancy car and gold chain. They are practically raped in a small damp room with just a stained mattress in it, and then tossed out into a dark alley to wait for the next assassin. Sound familiar?

We all are confronted by similar stereotypes to this on TV and other forms of media, but how true is it really? …

About

Lily Yang

Lily Yang is an author and popular social commentator. She writes extensively on child sex-trafficking and donates money to charities protecting children.

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