You don’t need to apologize to ANYONE for being picky.
Wrong choices in a mate can have disastrous consequences — newspapers are filled with stories of same. There’s no need for you to become another statistic of domestic violence, for example. You are too talented.
Sometimes it takes several generations (and even sometimes centuries) for the norms of a society to change especially vis-a-vis gender roles (in this case it’s millenia).
Hang tight. Be yourself…it’s much easier than wearing a mask and attempting to be someone else.