5 Things My Husband Has Taught Me

It is absolutely insane how much I have changed since being with my husband.

I am sitting here just reflecting on this and I am grinning ear to ear.

For some, when they hear from others that they have changed, they take this in a negative way — but for me when I hear that I have changed, I embrace it! I own that truth and walk in that truth!

I did not rate the person I was before my husband, in the sense that, there were so many ‘truths’ that people had forced me to abide by, that weren’t my truths!

And so when I started discovering, living by MY truths, I was so much happier, so much more fulfilled. He gave me the courage to do that!

I know there are others, like me, who have learned so much from their partners.

I also know that listening to and learning from one another can help people, this is what this blog is here for; to create safe spaces for me, and my peers, so that we can begin to heal.

So I would love to share with you 5 things my husband has taught me. And while I will share all 5 things below, I will only talk in detail about each one for the next 5 weeks. Hope that makes sense?

Without further ado, here are the 5 things;

  1. Some people just won’t get it
  2. Confrontation is necessary
  3. Give and don’t expect anything in return
  4. Let ‘No’ be your default answer
  5. Work harder for yourself than for your employer

Some people just won’t get it;

For a long time, my truth was to do absolutely everything to make my mum happy. I mean everything.

She worked so hard to raise all my siblings so I believed I owed her my life. Every decision I made, I considered her, to the point where it was becoming detrimental to me, and what I wanted out of my life.

One of the biggest decision in my life I made was to quit my job. And in this decision, I made no consideration for anyone other than myself. Not even my mum. I have no regrets here.

And this is where ‘some people just won’t get it’ plays a factor. My mum didn’t get. In fact, she still doesn’t get but that’s life, right?

When I quit my ‘secure’ job, I told myself that I have no other choice but to succeed — whatever that means.

Gratitude to the journey I am on, soaring still. I am here. I am proud. I am deserving, not to mention that this is the hardest I have worked to arrive in a place of happiness and self-commitment — it took a lot of work to birth and nurture this creative career. It wasn’t easy.

Just imagine having to put yourself out there like that — can you do it?

Very few people were able to support the vision, initially. Not because they didn’t believe in me — but because they couldn’t wrap their mind around turning “hobbies” into real life passion, brands, and businesses. I had to carry myself through this. The few people, my husband being my biggest cheerleader, who saw me, the vision, and trusted the work — I leaned on them. And still do.

There were times where I wished and prayed to be like everyone else. I wanted to be satisfied with working in the corporate world. I really did, so much so I stayed there for 5 years. I was so caught up in earning those paycheques that I got sidetracked and ended up at age 25 having a life that I genuinely hated.

What takes courage is standing tall in who you are, not following the crowd.

Personal empowerment comes from standing up for what you believe in, even if you stand alone.

When you are brave to be different, nothing can disturb your peace of mind. The more you are brave, the more you’ll no longer want to do what you used to do.

You’ll no longer care what anyone thinks of you. You’ll suddenly find yourself craving life, living fully, loving deeply, and being so attentive to everything that fulfils you and makes you happy.

You see a lot of people are aimless in their purpose, have no real plans and are too occupied to evolve. It is so important to not get sidetracked by these people.

And although the judgement for living out loud like this and being your true self won’t always greet you with a reward, satisfy yourself with this simple fact‘ some people just won’t get it’

P.s I know sometimes when I write it may seem that my communication is hurried and fast, as though I had been waiting to talk my whole life, to divulge my feelings to someone, to anyone — this is true. And the fact that I get to do this to you just feels like a blessing.

Love lychee

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