My heart is with you. It is so difficult but as you will see, some one in hospice, getting the care they need, makes it so much easier. It is just difficult to appreciate that now. Wait until later and it will come to you. The kindness we extend to anyone, no matter the setting, comes back to us. I worked hospice all of my RN career in some way, shape or form. It allowed me the gratification of giving some one with no hope or alternative a chance to see that true caring always wins. I took care of the homeless, those with families like yours, those alone due to a number of reasons. We as caregivers became family to all of them in many ways. I would not have done it any other way.