You don’t sound like a curmudgeon at all, and I do think the concept of “what works” could stand to level up a bit.
Once upon a time, people thought women should be property and that kind of thinking “worked” in it’s time. That time is gone. Being told we’re not “doing life right” is another concept that could go the way of the dinosaur.
I’d like to know a few more people at this dinner party, too.