Our real libido needs us to be relaxed and feeling safe and cherished and un-self-conscious about our bodies. It needs to feel playful and like it has all the time in the world to explore, and like we have a curious participant who is willing to hold our hand and journey with us. In a world without a living wage that requires a crippling amount of unpaid work every day, where her body is critiqued into insanity, and her worth is unseen by money, this is almost impossible. Patriarchy has created a hostile environment for female sexuality in every way possible. That’s why it has, until now, often seemed an endangered species, possibly extinct.