Before You Quit, Just Remember This One Thing

“A woman wearing a braid in her hair is leaning against a brick wall, praying” by Ben White on Unsplash

I wouldn’t call myself a quitter, but I would say that I do have a tendency to get very easily discouraged in the early stages of trying anything new (especially if it’s something that I’m not initially very good at).

Most of the time when I am writing advice articles such as this one, it’s more of a reflection of the kind of advice that I should probably be giving myself at that exact moment.

So, here I am now — In the early stages of trying something new, already discouraged at my performance thus far, and feeling slightly defeated.

I recently started a new job almost exactly one month from today. It’s completely unfamiliar territory in comparison to the past jobs I’ve had where I’ve been in the comfort of staying within the same industry.

But now, I’m in a different part of Manhattan, in a different industry, and have little-to-no prior knowledge of this side of the business. It’s a completely new ball game.

But, I’ve been here before…many times in fact.

I’ve been in situations where I’ve felt like it was completely different, but really it’s kind of the same. So, you think I would know the deal by now, right?


I’m writing this today, not only because I need to give myself this advice, but also because I figure that other people may need this advice too.

The beginning stages of anything is never what you expect it to be.

For some reason, I always seem to forget that with every new experience I have. I do try to lower my expectations or better yet, have no expectations at all when it comes to trying something new, but for some reason, that never actually happens.

I always compare, always look in hindsight, and always second-guess.

The thing is, you never really know how something will be until you try it. And if it turns out that you are right — that you validate your own assumption, well, then so be it. At least you tried.

But before you formulate a complete and final opinion on something, there is one thing that you have to remember.

Before you get discouraged like me, before you throw in the towel, before you quit, just remember this one thing —

It takes time.

I know it’s not as extravagant of advice as you probably thought it would be, but it doesn’t really need that many words or an elaborate explanation.

New processes take time. Learning takes time. Good things come in time.

You wouldn’t take a perfectly good cake out of the oven 10 minutes before it’s ready, would you?

If you’re smart, then you wouldn’t because you know that it wouldn’t come out the way that it should — It would be unfinished, undercooked, and probably taste pretty bad.

So, don’t pull yourself out of the game before it’s over. Give yourself time. Trying something new is always a process.

For me personally, I always get to this weird point of thinking, “Maybe I should just quit.

But I never follow through with quitting right there on the spot.

I’m always brought down to earth because someone (usually my sister, Mother, or a select few friends) talks some sense into me and I put my big girl pants on, get my head back in the game, and push through it.

I give it time and keep going until I’ve weighed out my options, and have collected everything that I need to know in order to develop a legitimate point of view. Once I’ve done that, then I make a decision.

And, I’ll be honest with you — It doesn’t always turn out that everything is fine and dandy. It doesn’t always end up being a necessarily positive experience.

But, it is always a learning experience.

I’m not telling you to be miserable in a situation that you don’t like. I’m just telling you to be patient in the beginning.

Again, it takes time in the early stages for you to really know how you feel about something. And sometimes to your surprise, it may turn out to be great and you end up proving yourself wrong. But you won’t know until you get through the uncomfortable early stages.

So I tell you this, and I tell this to myself — Just give it time.

“The moment you’re about to quit is usually the moment right before the miracle happens. Don’t give up.”