I recently told a friend, “I’ve spent my entire life not being black enough.” While it wasn’t the first time I’d ever said something to that effect, it was the first time that saying it out loud resonated with me so deeply as it was now. And it was the first time I really stopped to unpack it.
Growing up, people around me in my very homogenous, small town made it quite clear to me that I was different. Read: not white. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been asked, “What are you?” or “Can I touch your hair?” …
I grew up in a small town in the midwestern United States. Translation: there wasn’t (and still isn’t) a very diverse population in my hometown. I was one of very few kids in my elementary school that looked liked me and one of the only kids in my grade. I wasn’t bullied growing up and I had friends, but early on in my childhood, it became glaringly apparent that I was different from my peers.
It is unfortunately common for parents of minority children to have a variety of race-related “talks” with their kids. I, however, was catapulted into the conversation about race so early in my childhood, it was even before my parents had made the conscious decision to talk to me about the n-word. …
We’ve all seen them. They’re maddening, we don’t understand their purpose, and they send a pretty clear message. They’re joint Facebook accounts.
Why do people keep making them? Do those in one truly realize what their shared account is telling the world about their relationship? And are there any situations in which they are acceptable?
Much to our parents’ and grandparents’ disappointment, my husband and I have not produced a grandchild in our five years of marriage. Full transparency, we haven’t ever planned on having kids. But, our parents haven’t really caught on to how committed we are to that. They think there’s still wiggle room or some chance that we’ll be swayed.
The spread of the novel coronavirus has pushed companies to rely on remote work in recent months. Some think this practice could (finally) be here to stay, touting laundry lists of benefits to employees and employers alike.
Unfortunately for those of us whose employers didn’t already have a work-from-home structure in place, the pros don’t outweigh the cons. This practice will be unsustainable for them in the long term and means we’ll all be back in the office eventually.
I haven’t had the “good fortune” of working from home during the quarantine season. I’ve still been going into the office each day, but I am experiencing the effects of 1/3 of my staff working from remote locations, including their homes. …
Congratulations on your promotion! You’ve been a star in the office, you’re well respected among your peers, and you have wanted this for a long time. So, are you sure you know what you’ve just gotten into?
As I reflect on my own promotion into leadership, I can recount several things that I sincerely wish someone would have told me as I set out on this journey. Sure, you’ll have to “find your own way”, and this list won’t guarantee that you don’t encounter any rough seas, but it will give you a jump start!
The Big Deal: I don’t want to scare you away right from the start, but leadership is not all smooth sailing. You’re going to be asked to make some tough decisions, hold others accountable, and take responsibility for issues you may have known nothing about. This can be a difficult adjustment for some. …
I published my 1st article on April 11th, which means I just hit my 30-day mark on Medium. During this time, I learned, experimented, and read a lot, and I hit some pretty cool milestones. I’ve also set some lofty goals for what I want to achieve in the next 30.
Let’s take a look back on how the first 30 went and see what my main takeaways are!
My white friend sent me a text this morning:
“Who killed that guy I keep seeing all over social media? And why?”
It was like a gut punch. I couldn’t bring myself to respond; I didn’t have the strength to actually answer these questions.
Do we even live in the same world? We don’t. I’m reminded of that now.
Everywhere I turn, I see Ahmaud Arbery. I see the video where he is murdered for jogging while black. I see the commentary and the #irunwithahmaud posts being shared in my social media newsfeeds. The video, and now the arrest, are a large part of the current news cycle. …
Cruising is easily my favorite way to travel. If you would have told me that 5 years ago, I’d have laughed in your face and told you that you were nuts, because I get horrible motion sickness. However, now that I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that motion sickness on a cruise ship can be easily managed, I make it a point to share with anyone who will listen: For pretty much any destination, cruising is THE way to go!
Unfortunately, the cruise industry has been hard hit by the novel coronavirus. Not only because there have been reputation-damaging instances where entire ships have been quarantined as the virus spreads like wildfire, but also because the world can’t really travel right now and there’s a no-sail order in place preventing any cruises from occurring. …