Thank you for your honest words. Hard to hear from a woman who is desperately concerned for my favorite persons life. And I’m probably guilty of much of this negative thinking. I am slender. Have always been so. My dearest cousin has always been.. Rounder. Adorable. Sweet. Fun. Active! But now she has heart problems. She has become less active and I know her doctor has urged her to address her weight. What can I say? I want her to know I can’t bear the thought of her dying before me. I love her as she is. Her husband loves her as she is. We would never change her. Except we need her to be well. Your message makes me think you could help us. How do we start this conversation without hurting her??