I was overweight for a time and I didn’t feel good. I see being overweight as simply being over a healthy BMI. Just as being below a healthy BMI is cause for extreme concern in our society, so should being on the other extreme. Overeating is an eating disorder of sorts. People are very quick to point out anorexia or someone being too thin as alarming, but seem to accept someone on the other end of the spectrum. There are often underlyng emotional issues to overeating and anorexia. I want a partner with a healthy BMI because I want someone to fee well and live longer. Being overweight is being at risk for many life threatening diseases. However, no one should get healthy for a partner or family member. Rather, do it for yourself. You need to love and care for yourself first and a healthy relationship may follow.