Men…it’s Hard for Women Too

I’m a self-proclaimed matchmaker.

(Insert Laugh machine here).

I find joy in matchmaking my single family members with single friends that I believe to be wonderful people. But, this is not about me. This is about the woman who has fallen in love with someone and he does not know it. In fact, he doesn’t know how or why she loves him!

It’s hard for women to express themselves to men. Men feel that women can easily do that, but it’s hard, especially when men limit themselves from meeting and getting to know women.

What do I mean by that?

I’m sure all of us have heard the old excuse, “I don’t want a relationship right now.” Ugh! Yes…yes…we all know that. In 2016, men are trying to find themselves, search for that perfect life and women want to focus on their careers before they settle down and begin a family. That’s understandable. I’m an advocate for individualism — if you know yourself as an individual, you’ll know how to share yourself with someone else.

But, again, I am going to be the mouthpiece for a special young woman who indirectly met a young man and now wants a chance to have, at least, a friendship. Here is what she wants to say to him:

I know you value your career and what more you can accomplish. I know that with women, we can become clingy to a point where you can’t breathe. You have great friends, probably wonderful “bromances”, so a romance is not needed! You’re trying to figure out what to do with the rest of your life…what you’re missing. I get that. You’re single and it’s good to be selfish. You have that right. Women want that same freedom…that same independence! However, along the way, you’re going to meet some great people…of course you’ve already met great people! I would love to be a part of the magnificent group of people…I’d like to share this stage of my life with you. I know the cliché is that in time I might develop feelings for you, and that is one thing you do not want to happen. I get that. You have to have precaution when it comes down to meeting the opposite sex. But there are perks to having someone listening and sharing on a daily basis — and even if it’s miles a part — a different perspective is always an experience. I’m sure you’ve have had relationships that were good and that were bad. I’m not looking for marriage; I’m not looking for a relationship. I was intrigued with your words and I want to get to know the person behind those words! Unfortunately, relationships, dating, long distances have become negative connotations — that makes me sad. I’m a pretty great person to get to know! I’m positive, I’m caring, I love to help others…and there are a lot of other things I haven’t discovered about myself that I know will prove beneficial to my friendships. You know what a relationship is? It’s where two individuals have different lives, share their life, and grow from each other. You can relationships with your family and other friends. It shouldn’t be frightening. Just because someone wants to get to know you does not automatically mean they want to get married to you and have children. The challenge in life is to find someone you really connect with — and that’s what I’m trying to say to you — I connect with you through your words. Now if you totally fabricated what you wrote in your blogs, then there is no connection. I’m the type of person that if someone interests me, I’m not going to deny my feelings. I might be young, but I’m adult enough to pursue the feeling that makes me happy. True thrill and joy comes from opening yourself up to various opportunities — not job opportunities — but human connection. Don’t stop others from getting to know you. We’re all adults…if I fall for you…I’ll figure out how to handle it. If we fall for each other…well, we’ll cross that bridge. In the meantime, let’s enjoy the journey of building a friendship.” 

There you go. Now, if that particular person is reading this…yes…it’s directed towards you. I’m just the messenger.

Actually, I’m the matchmaker.

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